Hey, guys. First off, sorry for the long post. Thanks in advance for your time.
I am new to aquariums and wanted to know how badly I am messing up. I never learned chemistry. I wanted to run what I've done by people that are experienced for advice. I am out of my league and trying to catch up and learn as much as I can. I feel like I am over-doing it and some actions I'm taking need to stop.
I started the tank (added the premixed RO/DI saltwater) on April 29th. I did not rinse the 40lbs sand because it was live and figured that would ruin the point (the sandstorm was epic). I added 1 6lb piece of live rock from LFS to help seed the 40lbs of dry rock. I added 2 yellow-tailed damsels around March 3rd because I read it would help with the cylcing via ammonia. I started adding Seachem Stability around March 5th because I read that would also help with cycling and ensure the safety of the 2 fish. I've been maintaining the Stability as per the instructions (cap a day) since then. I have some Instant Ocean BIO-Spira (marine) waiting to go when the Stability runs out. I've had the powerhead and filter running full time since the day I filled the tank, and just recently cut back on the hours of lighting since reading it promoted unproductive bacteria in the cycling stage.
I've had concerns about the original Aqueon filter (Aqueon 06081 QuietFlow 20 Power Filter, 125GPH), so I replaced that. I also thought a powerhead pushing too much GPH would turn the tank into an amusement park so I got one in the lower range of acceptable GPH. Added some silk plants because the tank looked dead and it was bugging me. I keep 10 gallons of salt and fresh water in bins to the side (both RO/DI). I am also still baffled at how LED lights have the same effects as normal incandescent. I get the difference between normal and UVB. But, LED seems so artificial that I just can't wrap my head around it having the same effect on bacteria as other types of lighting (UVB excluded).
I've tested 3 times with API 5-in-1 strips and the levels have all been where they should be if the tank were stabilized (everything was safe for fish). It's all resting on a rubber mat to stabilize the aquarium. No skimmer, sump, or refugium since I read they weren't really necessary in such a small tank. The fish all have bold color and haven't been hiding as much as the days go by, so I am pretty sure they're not stressed too badly.
Tank specs:
TANK: Aqueon 29 gallon glass aquarium
LIGHTING: Aqueon 30" x 12" hood with LED lighting (16 LEDs), with timer running about 4 hours per day.
SUBSTRATE: Carib Sea Ocean Direct Natural Live Sand for Aquarium (40 pounds), not rinsed
LIVE ROCK: Carib Sea South Sea Base Rock (40 Pounds)
WATER: Pre-mixed RO/DI saltwater, with 10 gallons of both pre-mixed salt and plain RO/DI from LFS
PLANTS: Silk, soaked overnight seperately in RO/DI.
HEATER: Aqueon 06252 100w Preset Heater
FILTER: Marineland Penguin Power Filter, 200 GPH
POWERHEAD: JEBO AP1800 Aquarium Power Head, 345GPH
SKIMMER: none
SUMP: none
REFUGIUM: none
TESTING: API 5 in 1 Aquarium Test Strips, Digital thermometer with probe, Instant Ocean SeaTest Hydrometer
... so, can anyone tell me how badly I've screwed up and how to fix it? And what to do in the weeks coming up? I am learning as much as I can. I figured out the tropical arboreal reptile gig after a month or so of reading and experience, and got cocky. I underestimated how steep the learning curve was with marine aquariums. It's about twice as complex as my most delicate reptile setups.
Any advice is really appreciated.

