She wanted twins. I saw a video on Facebook where a couple had triplets when trying for their “second and final”! Haha That’ll be our luck.
Suggestions to keep in mind...JMO, and you're getting them for free, so take em or leave them as you will....
You are "learning a new game" with someone (your new daughter) who only knows how to scream.
This will be challenging for all involved. In time, you will learn to differentiate between the different screams. At first it will all just be noise.
I have three daughters. We had the twins, then our third.
I will spare you the gory details but when changing diapers, it's natural to get creeped out cleaning her up from a dirty diaper. It's just business. You have to get all the nooks and crannies cleaned up so that you dont cause diaper rash.
With regard to diaper rash...Desitin and A&D ointment are your friends.
Walmart, Target, and many local grocery stores have their own brands of Desitin and A&D, (and infant Tylenol, Ibuprofen, diapers etc). Since you will be buying these items with alarming regularity, save yourself some money and buy the less expensive stuff when you can.
Desitin comes in two versions, (it's a zinc based cream that helps diaper rash), Blue label Desitin is 13% zinc, Purple label Desitin is 40% zinc. Save the time and just go ahead and buy the purple from the get go.
In the event of an epic case of diaper rash, you can coat the area with the Desitin, and then coat the area with A&D as a barrier...works pretty good.
If the kid is crying, it's usually just one of a few things:
Wet
Hungry
Cold
Hot
Gas
If you've just changed the kid and she's still crying...check the diaper again. They love to mess up a fresh diaper.
Routine is paramount. Get in a routine and DO NOT DEVIATE from it. Especially true with twins.
If you guys dont have a pediatrician selected yet, get on it and start meeting with ones that are close to your home.
Infant Tylenol and Ibuprofen are the same thing as Children's Tylenol/Ibuprofen, however, the concentrations are different. Infant anything is more expensive than Children's. Figure out the dosage/concentration of the Children's stuff that applies to your daughter, double check with your Pediatrician about doing so and your dosages, and then start using the Children's versions to save money.
Feeding....dont be surprised if your daughter does not learn to breast feed. Only one of mine was somewhat okay with doing so, but even then it was a struggle. We wound up having to use formula to feed our kids. Not a big deal, but whatever formula you choose, stick with it. Changing up formula can bind up the kid and then you're in for a period of non stop unhappy baby for few days. Might decide to look around and see what formula is most available in your area and gets you the most for the money. Sam's Club and Costco both sell bigger versions of most commonly found formula's for less.
If you havent figured out, kids are expensive. They make reef tanks look affordable by comparison. They're absolutely worth it, but the frustrations and stress from a newborn are real.
Two final thoughts....
Post Partum is a real thing and is not to be trifled with. My wife had it with our last one and did not have it with the twins. Dont fool with it or blow it off. If you suspect she's going through post partum, seek help.
Finally, Go on regular (at least monthly) date nights. The kid exists solely because you two like each other. The kid will do better long term if you both stay together and remain a family. Put your relationship first, and the kid second, you'll all be better for it. Also, Date night is not 2 hours in a movie theater not talking or interacting...go out for dinner and talk, go play ski ball....anything that keeps you two talking and interacting with each other.
Sorry for the thread hijack, probably should have thrown all of that in PM, but who know's maybe someone else will see my diatribe and consider some of it useful.
Good luck with the kiddo, I'm sure you'll do fine.
