Yea, favorites will never do well. I like to pretend I hate them, seems to help.
I've seen super healthy and colorful acro tanks with PO4 up in the .1 and .2 range. As long as you have algae eaters it's generally fine. The thing with the magic .03 number is that while it's a great target to control algae it can stress acros if there's not a lot of food bits in the water. This is my opinion, not sure if it can be proven as fact. Anyway, as a tank ages and gets more sponge growth the water has more and more food and bacteria and all kinds of goodies in it which makes keeping acros easier and it seems like you can do no wrong.
So that said, if the tank is too clean, I like feeding reef roids or the BRS Reef Chili to help put food in the water. You have to stop testing PO4 though because it will appear to drive it up, especially reef roids. I think it's just more microscopic particles in the water, which is great for the acros but bad for the accuracy of the PO4 test. Just remember that high PO4 rarely kills acros, if it does anything they will lose some color but still be healthy. The less I worried about PO4 the better my tank did until I finally kicked the habit. Haven't tested in almost a year now, no clue where it's at.