Well guys, it's all done! I'd like to share my experience with all so you can learn from my experience.
I decided to go with rinsing the sand, and while my reef was broke down I cleaned my entire tank including the rocks and hardware. I went this route to help my goby survive, I wanted to preserve the bacteria that was in the sand as well. In short, I learned the hard way doing all this. But recovered the tank quickly.
First thing I did was crack open an ice cold corona in prep for a long night to come.
I scrubbed my sink well, rinsed everything out, and filled it with saltwater so I could use it as a holding/cleaning area for my rocks
Next, I bagged up my clown fish, goby, shrimp, and hermits. Wanted to keep them separate so they wouldn't fight in the holding bucket (wasn't sure this would happen but wanted to be safe)
I drained the tank completely! And moved my rocks to the sink and corals in the tank with the old aquarium water. Then I put my bagged livestock in the same bucket as the corals and put my light on the bucket with a thermometer to keep the water at a stable temp. I also turned off the ac in my apartment to prevent cooling of the rocks in the sink.
I took my hardware out, and put my power heads in a crockpot full of a vinegar water solution and turned them on to breakup all the calcium on it all
I also put my bioballs in a vinegar water solution. MISTAKE: don't ever clean all your bioballs at once, it removes too much good bacteria! Doh!
Now I rinsed the sand in my tub. Made a bit of a contraption to prevent too much loss of sand. Dang, it was a mess and the sand was definitely full of old fish poo and shells. Was starting to think I should've just replaced the sand instead!
Look at this cutie! I also took my aquarium in the bathroom and went to town scrubbing all the built up coralline and calcium from when my tank had less nutrients
Now here's where things start to go terribly wrong for me. After rinsing my rocks very well. I put it all back in along with the water. I notice CLOUDING! I didn't rinse the sand well enough obliviously! Spelt some big trouble for me, the corals I had in the tank started to get really ticked (I had most in bags at this point except for my Duncan and leather) I put it all back in bags. Thanks to @brandon439 for keeping close contact while I started having trouble
I had run out of saltwater, another huge mistake. I rinsed all my hardware and put it back in. And I had everything bagged up and in my clouded tank. I knew it was cycling and the amount of chemicals in that water had to be through the roof. After a full night of stressing out I decided to call it a night due to my loss of control. As I'm typing this I realize that I COULDVE WENT TO THE BEACH AND GOT MORE SALTWATER. Doh! I live in south Florida
Come morning, first thing I did was check my fish. The tank was still clouded. Very sadly, my goby was dead along with my shrimp. I removed the dead animals and tossed them along with the fouled water. I was very upset at this point, as my corals were looking bleached as well. I take a look at my clowns and they were desperately gasping for air. I had to take drastic measures to keep them alive, I couldn't handle the thought of losing them as they were my first fish. I put an airstone in the aquarium, and dosed the hell out of my water with prime. Then quickly released my dying clowns in the water. The laid in the sand, and I thought they were dead for sure. I watched closely and they slowly started to swim towards the airstone and gained a bit of life back. I was a bit relieved but had to go to work, stressing.
I came back home at lunch, while in contact with Brandon, to change my water. I looked at my clowns and they were miraculously swimming around like nothing had happened! I grabbed some of my aquarium water for my LFS to check and was on my way. And dang, my tank was looking clean.
So I went to the LFS, told them my situation. They checked my water, and my nitrites were through the roof. So I was told to replace all the water in the tank. So back home I did so, put my mad clowns back in bags as well.
The next day, I checked my water, and my ammonia was through the roof! Makes sense, because I had cleaned out so much of my good bacteria that my tank was probably going through another cycle. For those that don't know, the bacteria aid in breaking down the bad chemicals. When there is no bacteria, nitrogen spikes along with other toxic chemicals. Which is why it's so important to cycle your tank.
I also noticed more of my corals bleached out. And my temp was at 83! Whoah! I took my lid off and cooled my tank down through the day to change half my water and not shock the system. I also dosed with prime and bactervital to help the bacteria come back
Now I'm on a schedule to change my water once a week, or more depending on chemicals. And test my levels everyday until my tank completes they cycle.
But man my tank looks good as new!
So in total, here's what I lost:
1) my girlfriends poor diamond goby (spot)
2) jeuc, my bandage shrimp
3) my conch
Here's what have been affected, or barely holding on to life at the moment:
1) acro
2) acan
3) blue green sympodium
4) both my pavonas have a little bleaching but are mostly okay
5) star polyps have receded a bit but doing ok
All other corals are doing great or better!
1) Duncan
2) zoas
3) leather
4) frogspawn still slowly recovering
So long read short, here's is what you can take from my experience:
1) if you think you rinsed your sand good, rinse it three more times to be sure.
2) if you think you have enough saltwater, get 10 more gallons just to be sure
3) have an appropriate quarantine area for all your fish and corals, preferably another tank
4) saltwater life can be sensitive, but hardy as well. Never hold back on water changes or cleaning because you think it will affect your life. The worst you can do is allow your sand or hardware start to leak chemicals like mine did because it was so dirty
5) keep in mind your bacteria, you don't want to remove too much. Don't clean all bioballs at once.
6) always check temps, be sure you won't shock your system by adding cold water to hit or vice verse. I've been told 76-78 is ideal temp for saltwater
Thanks to all that followed this thread. Special thanks to Brandon for keeping close contact during my stressed moments. If anyone has comments on how to speed my corals recovery please do so.
Current params:
76 degree Fahrenheit water
Nitrates 20
Nitrites 0
Ammonia .25 detected
Ph 8.3
All chemicals are unstable due to my cycle. I'm to keep a close watch on them and aggressive water changes until everything stabilizes
Thanks again!