I’m going to qualify myself first since I still have a “new member” badge, but I’ve been keeping a 120g mixed reef for about 10 years now. I’ve had monitors in the past and recently upgraded to an apex A3 system. It has been a game changer and I am thoroughly enjoying all of the added features and dreaming of potential add-on modules in the future.
To answer your question, I think it depends a lot on your personal preference. I am a bit of an equipment and tech geek, so part of the enjoyment of the hobby comes from my controller and fiddling with the programming. A major benefit of a controller is the ability to create additional redundancies and fail-safes, which are great piece of mind if you travel. Additionally, temperature control within a very tight range becomes more feasible, especially if you have both heaters and chillers. I can now keep my temp within +/- 0.3 degrees F and my corals seem to love that. With stock heater controls, I could only achieve about +/- 1.0 deg F. It is also really nice to have an on/of switch in the palm of your hand for every piece of equipment in your setup. Water changes, feeding, adding fish/frags, cleaning, etc are a breeze when you can shut off pumps, skimmers, lights, etc by just whipping out your phone and clicking a toggle switch in the app.
On the other hand, monitors are also a great option if you don’t need the control and still give you a much better understanding of your tank so you can make adjustments and improve stability. If you do go the monitor route, I highly recommend one with pH capability. Being able to see long term pH trends has improved my understanding of the tank chemistry, alk consumption, and day/night fluctuations that inspired me to build a refugium and bring outside air into my skimmer.