Wanted to follow up on this. After dosing Nitrates and Phosphates a while, I determined I was really just chasing a ghost. As I increased the dosages, the fuge would just grow more to compensate so I never really got to a steady state, just created a new normal and probably pushing the system toward its limits.
I've now just gone to feeding a bit more than the fish need and letting nature do its thing and not obsessing about the Nitrate&Phosphate levels. I can dial down the fuge light if I want to slow the nutrient absorption levels. I'm pulling a softball of chaeto and other various algaes out of my sump weekly and I take that as a sign my nutrients are just fine.