I’m don’t have a PhD in Fluid Dynamics, but i am pretty sure the noise you’re getting is due to air being in the drain line. Since the durso must be vented, the line will always have air in it, and will always have some noise. Velocity would just aggravate this turbulent interface between the air and water, but practically speaking it will always be noisy at any flows we’d care about in our tanks. The only way to evacuate the air is to convert the line to a full siphon w/ a gate valve, but then you definitely want that emergency overflow line in case of snails, long term buildup, etc. I suppose one alternative to the emergency drain would be to put a leak sensor with some logic in a controller to kill your return pump if the level gets too high. That said, I am always a belt and suspenders kind of guy when it comes to matters of wife acceptance factor, and WAF would be pretty low if the place got flooded.