OK, trying again. I realized the overflow's drain can't just be a floor drain; it needs to hold a little water so the aqualifter can start the siphon in the u-tube. I also decided the giant acrylic box for the u-tube was not only overkill, but would be very hard to start the siphon, so I've gone to 2" plumbing just like the drain to the DT.
The idea is to have a drain that comes up into the overflow a few inches so the u-tube is always under water on the overflow side. this u-tube has a couple Tees on the fuge side so I can try different surge sizes. If I leave the screw-plug out of any of those Tees, the siphon will break early and give me smaller surges (regardless of the aqualifter/siphon setting/programming, which could make smaller surges based on timing).
I think I'll make the drain to the DT come up and back down so it's pulling water off the bottom (keep the bottom of the overflow a little cleaner), I'll poke a small hole in its top so it doesn't siphon the overflow box until that hole gets drowned by the U-tube's inflow.
Again, with a normally-open solenoid on the u-tube, the u-tube will fail to NOT siphon (aka: not surge) during a power outage. If you put the aqualifter and the solenoid on the same outlet of a controller, the siphon will start building when it gets power ('surge on') because the solenoid doesn't let it vent, and the aqualifter pulls a siphon into the u-tube just like a normal HOB overflow. when that siphon is made, the fuge will quickly drain into the overflow until either the outlet loses power (solenoid opens/aqualifter off) or the fuge level drops below the u-tube opening (I plan to make this about 8" down). as the water rushes into the overflow, the drain to the DT pulls a siphon as it gets drowned, and it drains about 50 gallons per MINUTE into the DT.
the display tank will receive the 2" drain from fuge into a 4x4 bubble tower to minimize bubbles. I'm thinking 6-8 cutouts in the bubble tower, 1/4"x3" should let most of the surge's (and fuge's) water out near the bottom of the tank (helping get good turnover of the water) but with minimal bubbles. Anything that can't surge through those cutouts can flow over the top. Yes, I'll poke a hole in the drain from the fuge at the DT water level to ease the starting of the siphon. I plan to put the bubble tower top level with the DT's weir so any water pouring over the top doesn't have to fall into the display
The DT weir will be about 68" long, I think I'll try for about 1/4" teeth with 1/4" between the teeth, so a small fish or snail might get through, but most shouldn't. I want them about an inch tall, which slightly lowers the water level, but gives some safety with the surge capacity, that gives about 34 sq in of open weir space, and the 2" drain from the fuge is only about 3" of drain, so I should have plenty of weir capacity. This then drains through a 20" wide opening in the back wall to get everything to the external overflow, probably 1-2" tall, so again: plenty of surge capacity.
The 1-1.5" siphon of the DT's BA should carry most of the return's 900gph, leaving the 2" open and 3" emergency to carry the surge (though I hope the emergency will stay dry). large open is to accommodate the surge and minimize risk of clogs. 3" emergency is purely to avoid clogs. the siphon will drain to the skimmer section (the highest of the sump), the open will drain to the main area, the emergency will drain straight to the return section so it's more obvious when it's in use.
Thanks to all who've helped discuss this with me, I appreciate it. It really is helping shape the idea and fix the problems. FWIW, I can't actually do this until next year (I'm still just rolling with my new 29g while I plan the 6' tank)
