Yeah, I've never heard a good basis for this "rule" and its never made any sense to me.
Its funny, starting from a similar skeptical perspective I went the opposite way as you - having never heard a convincing argument why I should slow down the flow through the sump, since I want as much flow as possible in the DT, I run my return and flow through sump as fast as the pipes allow
I do think high flow is important in an algal refugium, so it seems easiest to me to just maximize flow through the whole system. Not essential, just the easiest way for me to set it up.