The valve on the drain has nothing to do with the flow through your sump. Set the speed of your pump(s) to achieve the desired flow through your system. You should do this with all valves wide open. The drains will run noisy but don't worry about it. Only focus on water flow.
Once you have the flow through the sump that you want, then you want to start shutting the valve on the full siphon drain. You want it set so that most of the flow goes through the full siphon drain with a small amount of flow going down the trickle drain. This will allow your drains to run quietly.