Definitely going to need more flow if there's only one power head in there. At least get a second one like you have, but lemme know if you want some other ideas.
Use timers to run them as a nice little tide simulator. Corals will be happy. Run one pump for 3-5 hours, then run the other pump for 3-5 hours. Repeat.
Low flow could be part of the problem, BTW.
Come on man! How can you afford a reef tank but not a phosphate kit! Give me a break on that!!

(Irresistible.)
But seriously, can you at least take a sample to the LFS? If not, I'd at least get a drip test for phosphate...like Salifert or whatever. You can still get useful info from it, just not precise readings. That's OK.
And can you post the rest of your recent test results that you do have kits for?
Lay off the Vodka.
What's the Prime for?
Lay off of this stuff too.
You may have been going in the wrong direction....were you trying to take nutrients DOWN instead of trying to maintain them for use by your animals?