Some dry rock is actually dug up from old reefs that are now buried. BRS calls it "reef saver"...others may not even tell you that's where it comes from. With it being buried for so long, it likely is full of phosphates and other crap that will leech out into your water. Also, since it is often so clean and white, it makes me suspect that it has been bleached. A while back, we did a group buy, and I got a bunch of snails. I noticed that their shells were all very white, as if they were bleached. I had an unusually high death rate with them in the next week or two, and then it stabled out. I suspect that many suppliers bleach them and, similar to cyanide used to catch some copperbands, it harms many of them. I now avoid snails that look bleached.
I have had pretty good luck with live rock, bought from individuals. The price is often less than dry rock from any other source. I have gotten it as cheap as $70 for 100lbs. Granted, I had to scrub some hair algae off of it, but that's well worth the savings. I scrubbed it in tap water, let it sit for a couple days and put it in the tank...not the optimal way to do it for those with small systems, especially)...but it worked fine and killed the hair algae.
Aiptasia? Well, I have a copperband and a filefish that keep my 220g virtually aiptasia free. There's probably a couple deep in the rocks that are clear from not getting light. I know there are some in sumps, so i know spores are in the system...but you would have to look for a while to find any in my tank. Therefore, I don't worry much about getting aiptasia on any live rock either.
BTW, I could probably stand about 30lbs of rock if anybody has some available.