I'm so glad that you took the time to read some articles. While there are predatory sponges, the chances of getting a bad sponge in your reef tank is very unlikely. While it is a prudent thing to know what species of animals you have in your tank, you can almost be assured that every sponge is good and not going to be a problem.
There is the White Branching Sponge that some people don't like because of its very rapid growth, but it certainly won't harm anything. The large sponge in the sump in a previous post in this thread is a White Branching Sponge. They can be trimmed back without any ill affects to the water quality.