Ya I thought that if I used his sand it would help me get past the cycle a little faster
How would you remove it and replace it with the tank running and not causing a cycle again
I'm not going to engage in the bare-bottom vs sand bed debate. Plenty of threads eventually end up at "it's a matter of taste", and debates on taste are just that. I hate cilantro. My wife loves it. We just agree that recipes calling for cilantro mean "cilantro on the side." Anyways...as to how to swap sand.
1. Removing the sand. Siphon it out with a nice 1/2" - 3/4" hose. Siphoning takes the sand and the icky stuff together. Scooping or other means just stirs up the yuck. DO THIS IN PHASES. Do about 1/3 of your sand per week for 3 weeks (I'd do this as part of your water changes, since water will come out with your sand...if you're like me and do bi-weekly water changes, this may take 6 weeks instead of 3). I'd do the middle third first (more as to why in #2).
2. Replace the sand. After each third is removed, you can replace it with new sand immediately. Some will argue that you'll leave a little of the old in the margins, but it'll be negligible. The benefit of replacing as you go is the life from the other 2/3 will fill in. If you replace the middle third first, life can move in from both sides.
If you use dry sand, rinse it aggressively. Like, 1 cup at a time in a bowl until the water is clear. It's a total pain, but worth it. This gets out the silica and other junk you don't want. Once you have the amount of rinsed sand you need, get a length of 1 1/2" PVC longer than the depth of your tank and a big pitcher. Fill the pitcher 1/4 full with sand and the rest with tank water. Put the PVC in the tank and aim it at the newly-bare area. Stir up the sand in your pitcher and pour it into the PVC. Now you're placing sand like a pro concrete pourer. Since you aggressively rinsed the sand earlier, this will drop the sand right where you want it and not create a cloud.
I've done this method probably 6 times in the last 20 years and it works great. I didn't know 20 years ago that the aggressive rinsing of sand was taking a lot of long-term bad things out, nor do I think our science at the time did, just that it prevented the sand cloud.
Hope that helps.