Such calibration with RO/DI can be inaccurate for several reasons.
The first reason is that that many refractometers sold to hobbyists are brine refractometers, not true seawater refractometers. These devices, when manufactured perfectly and calibrated with RO/DI perfectly, will perfectly measure brines (sodium chloride solutions) and will imperfectly measure seawater salinity.
The second reason is that some refractometers may not be manufacturer perfectly, and calibrating them far from the salinity where they will actually be used can amplify the errors. Scientists always calibrate any device near the concentration they will measure, and usually do so at multiple point both above and below the concentration being measured to know the response at the measured concentration is accurate.
So for this reason, using a correct 35 ppt seawater standard to calibrate for measuring 35 ppt seawater can never incorrect to use, while using RO/DI can.