Ok, my latest numbers were: Calcium - 360, Mg - 1200, alkalinity - 9.6 dkh & specific gravity of 1.025. I feed flakes every other day, reef roids 2-3 times per week & mysis once a week. I don’t have a reactor so I just put some GFO in a mesh bag and put it in the filter. I have to top off probably every 3 days, and I have slacked big time on the water changes as I felt it wasn’t making a difference & I wasn’t getting any res
If your top off water is not RODI or distilled, then you need to make that change. On a system like yours where skimming and GFO are the only phosphate export, it is important to keep up with a regular water change schedule. IMO, GFO in a bag is fine. I don't feed my coral as a normal practice, I have a couple LPS but mostly SPS. I have fed in the past but I have only seen it directly effect my Chalice. If you want to back down on your nutrient input to the tank, maybe consider cutting the coral food out or down to once a week until you get your PO4 in check.
I prefer to keep my calcium and magnesium levels up to the 400 and 1350 range. Higher magnesium is connected with slowing the growth of some kinds of algae. Water changes with salt that is really high in these areas will boost it a little, but I typically just manually dose the tank until my levels are where I want. From that point it will be easier to tell if your water change schedule will maintain them.
Your DKH is in a fine place for me, but the trend these days is to keep I under 9 if you are going after a low nutrient system.
Kalkwasser might be a good next option for you as far as keeping calcium levels and pH up as well as pulling phosphate out, (or just binding it and making it unavailable).
Sand beds can be a reservoir of PO4. IMO, pulling it out is a drastic move but could be a realistic no cost solution if other things don't work. I would syphon it out in sections with my water changes, but not pull it all out at once.
Here is a link to a video about adding Kalkwasser. It is by Julian Sprung. He has written some really influential books on the hobby and been around it since the 80's. He has simplified using it to simply adding a spoonful of powder into a glass of water and dumping it into your tank. He speaks more directly about the PO4 binding abilities at about 5 minutes into the video and continues on to talk about safe amounts to use and how.