Sounds like you have a pretty good handle on everything and I agree with most of what you are saying here. I would just caution against changing the pressure of the regulator with our reactor, and use your management system applied to a single variable (bubble count) to control. I would also encourage everyone to regularly test effluent alkalinity since this is the easiest way to spot an issue before it becomes a problem (like a failing probe). I am pretty sure the carbon doser uses a NC solenoid, so when it is on is the only time you would experience wear, not from a on/off cycle, even then I know they use the best components available (why we recommend them) so I personally wouldn't sweat wear and tear of that.
I really appreciate you taking the time to detail out your method, we will keep this in mind next time we update the Seabones manual so we can include a few more detail points on alternate operation methods