So cool that you two are in it together! This might seem like a strange comment, but many of us reefers only get partial support from our significant others. A reef/fish tank gets a lot of attention. I don’t think anyone can deny a decent tank’s lure, but some people focus on the upkeep and the time it takes. They may reserve any complements for very special things or offer them on accident. Attention to the tank is something wee reefers enjoy!
I hope you like to tinker? This is what someone asked me early on. Are you both engineers? You will be. Be resourceful. Read blogs and make your own decisions. Be patient, a good saying that is not my own goes a little like this... “nothing good in reef keeping happens quickly, only bad things happen quickly.” Or something like that.
Make all maintenance as simple and quick as possible. That is my goal with a second tank. Spend money on simple.
Please ask me any questions that you have. I’ve got many reasons to pay it forward as this community can be very generous.
Enjoy!