Sorry. I’m trying to explain it the best I can.
Think of your rocks as a sponge. A soaking, wet sponge will make a dry surface wet. However, a damp sponge (has less water) will absorb a puddle of water.
A soaking wet sponge cannot absorb more water, and a dry sponge cannot release water.
In this analogy, the sponge is the rocks, and the water is the phosphate.
You can’t assume a puddle of water on the floor is all the water there is if there’s a wet sponge on top of the puddle, because the sponge holds even more water. If you dry some of the puddle with a paper towel (water change/carbon dosing), more water from the sponge will seep out.
However, nitrate is like glitter. It doesn’t stick to the sponge at all. If you take a wet/dry vac (carbon dosing, water change) it will remove both glitter and water, however more water will seep out from the sponge.
So at the end, it makes it seem like carbon dosing/water changes is more effective for nitrate than phosphate.
I hope this analogy is helpful.
Of course, there are other processes that make carbon dosing more efficient for nitrate, but I believe this is the main one.