Ok. I talked with my father-in-law who is a retired Civil Engineer/Professional Engineer. I'm paraphrasing below so forgive me if I don't use his terminology.
All of this assumes you are pumping from a sump that is a couple of feet below your display tank. If you are pumping up from a basement or using a bunch of 90 degree elbows then the head pressure becomes a factor. What I generally got was that water in this case wants to go for the path of least resistance...in this case into your DT instead of flowing back against the other pump. BUT...there are a couple of ways to do it:
You CAN use the T Junction with you have drawn in near the top left of your drawing. The larger pump works best if it is the one flowing straight through the T junction. Having the smaller pump come in from the side does create issues as it's meeting up with the column of water flowing "straight" through and coming from the stronger pump. Basically the water is looking for the path of least resistance (paraphrasing here) so it will want to go up and into the tank instead of trying to go back down the T junction toward your UV sterilizer. BUT...this can cause eddies to form similar to how you might hear your shower or some plumbing make noises or get sudden/brief pressure spikes.
Using a Y fitting...so both of your pumps come in and flow out the bottom of the Y is the best bet. In this case the laminar flow of the water wants to go up into the tank instead of making a 135 degree turn and flow back down towards the UV or vice versa. Once again...path of least resistance and since you aren't making the two water pipes "crash" into each other at a 90 degree angle by using a T it's even smoother and less likely to have issues.
Not saying I'm an expert or that I understood what my father in law was telling me...
Hope it helps.