You will probably get different recommendations but here is what I would do and what I am doing. First off lets say your NO3 goal for your tank is 5-7ppm NO3. I would slowly increase your flow every day or two until you see a slight increase in NO3 at the discharge of the DND. Once you see the increase I would back off the flow until you are back at 0ppm. Remember that your anaerobic bacteria will continue to multiply consuming more NO3. I would continue to increase and back off flow every few days until you reach the flow that gives you a consistent 0-1ppm NO3. Hopefully with your small DND you will get the flow your looking for and if not you may have to add that third tube you mentioned earlier. For simplicity reasons lets say you can achieve a 0-1ppm at 10% flow with your DND, the next steps would be to monitor your DND and tank NO3 levels. Once you see the tank levels dropping, it is time to determine the rate of decline of NO3 you want for your tank. I will use my tank as an example. The maximum daily I would drop the NO3 in my tank is 1-2ppm to start because I started at 19.6ppm with a goal of 5-7ppm. Once I get to 10ppm I would do one of two things or both and that is to increase flow and or decrease the carbon source until my DND discharge is at 2-3ppm NO3 monitoring my NO3 in my tank and DND every few days. The closer I get to my goal I am making small flow and or carbon dosing adjustments. Once you get to your desired tank NO3 levels you need to match the DND discharge NO3 to the tank NO3.
I know it sounds like a lot of monitoring and adjusting and it is but the last thing you want to do is take your NO3 DOWN TO ZERO IN YOUR TANK!!
One thing I am seeing with my system is my PO4 is also dropping at a fairly consistent ratio with my NO3 so you may want to monitor that also.
I am using the Hanna Checker for both my NO3 and PO4 and using API NO3 checker as a rough check. I have never had an issue with my Hanna Checker in almost 2 years and 100's of tests. Has always seemed to be very consistent.
Hope this helps you.