There are Lots of threads on this issue and it gets beat to death, gounding ... stray voltage, etc. Depending on the amount and size of equipment I would not say it is out of the ordinary. Conversely, unless you are running a grounding probe it is almost impossible not to have some degree of potential in your tank .. just physics.
Think of it like this. You slide down a long plastic slide and accumulate some static. Relative to ground you could actually be in the 1000s of volts. Yet you are none the wiser even though you would register super high voltage on a meter (like the tank inhabitants) until you touch someone and that charge has a path (grounding probe). It is the current, and not voltage, you need to be concerned with.
I am not advocating people should or should not run a grounding probe for their personal safety, but if a tank sits at 20 volts w/out a path to ground, the inhabitants should not be aware of it.
I don't want to derail the thread into another beating of the horse, my opinion is though is that is not the cause. I feel your pain OP. I had a 180 years ago that went downhill at about the 18 month mark. I moved and had to break the tank down anyway, but the issue was never really figured out. Other things I looked at were source water (was my RO/DI going bad?) did the water company start putting in chloramines, bad batch of salt, bad refractomoter, leaching metals from a magnent or piece of equipment, etc.