Flashback to November 2015, my lil' was doing out his list to Santa and on that list was saltwater fish

. I said to him, D we already have 3 freshwater tanks and saltwater water tanks are much harder than freshwater! His response to me was ... 'Mommy, this is my list and this is between me and Santa'!!! (Yes, he has a feisty & smart mouth just like his mommy). So, of course the next time Santa went to her LFS to pick up things needed for freshwater tank, she spoke to them about upgrading to a saltwater tank and the guys seemed helpful enough and told me that they would be having some deals on black Friday. Black Friday comes around and Santa makes her way over to the LFS, next thing I know I have a BC29, live sand, live rock and water in my car and about 10 minutes of knowledge that was passed to me by the guys from the shop

. Later that night I set up the tank and put a note on it that of course was signed by Santa himself, he explained to lil' one that he heard he water saltwater fish for Christmas but in order for that to happen he needed to bring the tank early and just maybe it would be ready for a fish at Christmas.
Flash forward to January 2016, I joined R2R - Newbie Obsessed ... so excited as now I had a BC29 tank that was cycled and some of the cutest fish ever and I was completely obsessed with it (Yes, you read that correctly .... 'I', this had become my baby ... shhhhh don't tell lil' one) with in weeks of starting that 1st thread, I had the crash and lost everything!!!
@Humblefish,
@Diesel,
@melypr1985,
@Chrisfish and
@cameronh (I am sure I forgot someone here but I haven't been back to that 1st thread as it makes me sad, so If I forgot you I am sorry) were amazing trying to help me figure out whether I had ich/velvet and how to help my lil' fish friends ... as soon as I would make a post asking a question about what to do there was an immediate response even though I know they were thinking geeeezeeeee another newbie who didn't do any research

!!! I remember thinking my stupidity of the hobby had killed these lil' fish and I was so upset about it but
@Chrisfish reached out via PM, she was sweet and encouraged me to continue! Yep, we FBFF's now



!!! So, at this point I decided to just take a little break, I spent that time reading every thread I could and even a few books that were recommended! I also decided to find a local member who might want to mentor me, so I reached out to a couple members via PM,
@ReeferEric (who is famously know in my threads as the 'Fish BF') responded on a Thursday and on Friday I was at his house, he showed me his amazing tanks

, we talked about what happened to my tank and he said he would help me start again! I am sure that sometimes he wishes he wouldn't have responded to that initial PM because I am a major PITA with a mild case of OCD

and that is ok that he thinks I am a lil' crazy because I think he is amazing!
Late February 2016 ... So the journey started again with Newbie Obsessed II with the Fish BF's help and the amazing support of the members of R2R! If you followed that thread you know while I still have tons to learn and that I have a hard time keeping fish alive except for Mr. Cutie and Nibbles (I think he alive just because he sooooo darn mean, bites me at every chance he gets), I can grow certain corals like weeds ... makes you wonder huh?!??!
Summer 2016 ... the beginning of the summer brought with it the excitement that this newbie wanted a 'big girl' tank (copyrighting 'Big Girl'© as I plan on using that in the new build title

)and she found out that Fish BF was tearing down his 56g and of course it was to be mine



!!! But once again life struck and we found out that my FIL was losing his battle with bone cancer, he passed away about 4 weeks ago, my SIL was diagnosed with acute leukemia (we'll leave this like that for now) So, in a brief moment of insanity the newbie went and posted her baby up in the sale thread and got a hit immediately! I also posted in my thread that I was done and needed a break ... once again the R2R community was simply amazing, I received thread messages and PM messages asking if everything was ok and if there was anything anyone could do!!! I want to especially thank
@dbl for his messages even though he knew nothing about what was going on with my SIL and FIL only that I was selling the BC29 ... he was so sweet and for that I am thankful!
For those wondering ... the BC29 is still here, I was unable to let it go ... the guy who wanted it was wonderful about me changing my mind!!!

Without the R2R community, I would have given up a long time ago! I continue to learn something new every single day, I continue to txt the Fish BF when the slightest thing happens in my tank (even though he now ignores those 4am txt



) I continue meeting new people and most importantly I continue building some special relationships with a few others!!!