Calibrating with RO/DI is not the same as calibrating with a 35ppt refractive index standard. It's only the same if your refractometer is perfect and has perfect internal calibration. Randy's
article on salinity measurement covers the various reasons why. Figure 17 in particular describe a situation like you mention, calibrating with 0 ppt water (freshwater), and the error that results at 35ppt. If you wanted to test this, you could do so by calibrating with freshwater, then read a 35ppt refractive index standard. If the reading is exactly 35ppt, then you have a perfect refractometer. If not, you're one of many reefers who have an imperfect refractometer, and you need to calibrate with a 35ppt standard.
I think this is why this is such a debated topic. Some people have perfect refractometers. They can calibrate with 0 ppt and it will read perfectly at 35ppt. Others, however, do not. Yet, even if your refractometer is not perfect, calibrating with freshwater will likely be close enough (even though it might be off by a ppt or two). The refractometer will be consistent, so your salinity will be consistently a ppt or two off, which likely won't be a big deal. Still, regardless of how accurate your refractometer is, you will always measure accurately at 35 ppt salinity if you use a 35 ppt salinity standard. You will not always measure accurately at 35 ppt salinity if you calibrate with freshwater. To me, this is reason enough to only calibrate with a 35ppt standard.
When a bottle of
salinity standard is a few dollars (or
you can make your own in a few minutes), it just doesn't make sense to me to calibrate with anything else. I just can't justify salinity being "close enough" when we spend so much on our tanks.