You can use reef-pi to control them, I think one could get creative with light modes and setup decent patterns but yeah not ideal, I would have thought Apex would definitely have full wave maker control, I'll definitely be getting to that at some point.
For your Jebao's you can remove the 3 pin plug like the picture above. With a volt meter you can determine what the wires are for, there will be one ground, +24v and the signal. As you adjust the controller you'll see a change of voltage on the signal wire. Once you know you can add a 2.1mm DC barrel socket to the Ground and +24v so you can use the power supply that came with the Jebao and then connect the signal and the same DC ground to controller.
For feed mode if you're willing to do it manually or via a timer reef-pi can do such a thing using a macro, you can have it turn on/off different equipment, pause X number of minutes and resume. You do need to consider other schedules setup, especially if turning things off for maintenance as they could turn something back on.