Because they're measuring different things. We have nothing that actually measures ppt. A Hydrometer measures Specific Gravity (or more accurately, density), while a refractometer is measuring the refractive index. Table salt varies in composition from saltwater by a lot, so while the refractive index of 36.5 ppt of Brine might be the same as 35ppt of Seawater, the SG/Density is not the same (even though the scale on the refractometer shows SG it's actually showing the expected SG for that refractive index in saltwater). Does that make sense?
No, as I said in an earlier post, I tend to follow the directions from the scientists who created the refractometer just because they may know something I don't. Your way (and Randy's way) may be perfectly fine, but if ambient temperature didn't matter at all, I don't know why they would create such a stringent calibration regimen... So I tend to air on the side of caution.