So based on this thread, and the timing of holiday sale prices, I decided to give the Sicce SDC 9.0 a shot. It was $120 off on Cyber Monday which brought it down into that not super crazy price range.
So far so good - I really like the fact that it's controllable via Apex so I can easily tweak it if it does drift when I'm out of town. It's easily more powerful than the last 3 pumps I tried, I'm running it at 70% and getting my target 400gph. That makes me happy as it gives me lots of wiggle room to tweak it up or down and hopefully not running flat out like my other pumps will make it less likely to drift. It is definitely noisier than any of the other DC pumps I've tried, even the cheap ones, but it is not remotely at problematic levels and I can't hear it outside the utility room which is all that matters. I could see why people would be disappointed though, I think I would be if I needed to put it under a stand in the room with the tank. For a $450 pump from a brand like Sicce, I would expect best in class noise levels but my Jebao and EFluxes were quite a bit quieter at half or less the price.
At any rate, so far so good, thanks for the tip
@Kodski! If this doesn't work in the long run, I have other great recommendations on this thread to try, thanks everyone!