JustJohn, I don't get here (R2R) as often as I use to. And yes, I have a fair amount of experience with RFAs.
I think lighting could be an issue, however, I think it would take days if not weeks to make a big change in color. Especially when it's bright one day in your tank and not the next.
Do you know what your PAR is at the depth of your RFA? If not, what kind of lighting are you using and at what levels? Here is why I ask. The most colorful RFAs come from deeper water, like 30' deep or more. RFAs from 10' to 20' have some good color, but not like the deeper ones. I only snorkel in very shallow water and I see lots of RFAs (I have a special spot in the Keys). The water is only 2' deep there and ALL the RFAs are very lacking in color, especially color that fluoresces under blue light. They are mostly off white, tan, brown, some black and rarely some with green tentacles that do fluoresce.
So, IMHO you may have too much light (trust me, this is just a wild guess based of some real world experience).
I have one RFA I kept when I sold all the livestock along with my 90g DT system. It's now in my new 16g 'all-in-one' DT. It has a non-fluorescing burgundy face and the tentacles that fluoresce like crazy are VERY gold color with tiny green specs in them. In my old system is was doing OK under higher PAR (200), but it looks better now in my small tank that is running at lower PAR (just under 100).
And I'd also echo what others have said about giving it time. These nems are quite hearty, so I don't suspect there is anything really wrong with ours. And if you play with some environmental conditions like PAR, nitrate or phosphate, you may see an improvement over time.
I hope this helps?