When you first got the system you should have cleaned and disinfected the housings then flushed each filter in sequence before installing the next. You start out with all empty housings including the RO membrane housing and DI if you are replacing those too.
After disinfecting the system, install ONLY the sediment filter and screw all the remaining empty housings back on then disconnect the 1/4" line between the carbon block and the RO membrane and stick the line in the sink or a bucket. Open the tap water and let the wate run through the sediment filter for a couple minutes to flush out all the glues and binders from the mnufacturing process so it does not clog or foul the carbon pores. Next unscrew the first carbon housing and install the first carbon block and agin flush the sediment and carbon for a few minutes to flush out the carbon fines or dust present from the extrusion of the carbon block (I hope it is a carbon block and not granular carbon) . Next install the second carbon block and do another several minutes so all three prefilters, sediment and 2 carbons, are clean and ready to use.
Now install the RO membrane and reinstall the 1/4" line from the carbon to the RO membrane. Open the tap water and overthe next hour or two send 3 to 5 gallons of RO water down the drain until a handheld TDS meter shows the effluent TDS has dropped as low as it will go, it should be around 98% lower than the tap water TDS with a new RO membrane. Finally install the DI cartridge and run the system until the RO/DI TDS is 0 and you are ready to go.
By not doing these steps you have shortened the life of all components by sending the glues, binders, dust and antimicrobial agents from he manufacturing to each component downstream.
You determine the rejection rate using the tap water TDS and the RO only (taken between the RO membrane and the DI filter, not the final RO/DI TDS)TDS numbers. DO NOT confuse Rejection Rate with Waste Ratio which you are doing in question 2. Rejection Rate if the removal efficiency of the RO membrane, Waste Ratio is the amount of waste water versus treated water to keep the membrane flushed and usable.
For rejection rate you take your tap water TDS and subtract the RO only TDS then divide that result by the original tap TDS and multiply by 100. A quick example would be say you have a tap TDS of 100 and your RO only TDS is 4. 100-4=96, 96/100= 0.96, 0.96x100 = 96% rejection rate or removal efficiency. Not good but not bd, you want to be at around 98% or better with a new membrane.
For waste ratio you use a measuring cup and a clock or watch and time the flow from the waste line then the treated line for exactly the same time period. Take the measuring cup and measure the waste flow for exactly one minute and write down the ounces or m/L, dump it and do the same from the treated line then compare thetwo results. You want the waste ratio to be very close to 4:1 or 4 times as much waste as treated. If you have 500 m/L of waste then you should have around 125 m/L or treated etc. The exact amounts will vary depending on the membrane, your tap water TDS, your water temperature and your water pressure but you still want about 4:1 in the end. If it is not close to that I would suggest a new capillary tube flow restrictor you the end user can trim or adjust to fit your exact conditions for around $5-$6.
Good sediment and carbon filters should last 6 months under normal conditions. The RO membrane will last 18 months to 10 years or more depending on the quality of your sediment and carbons, how well you keep up with the 6 month replacements and if you do at least and annual disinfection. DI resin is entirely dependent on the quality and freshness of the resin, how well the resin is packed in the cartridge, how you make water, by that mean frequent small batches are bad while less frequent long filter runs are good and if you have CO2 present in your water. It can be 3 months or a year or anywhere in between. Under normal conditions you can expect 3000 to 6000 total TDS per pound (16oz) of fresh DI resin. If your rejection rate is not good and your RO only TDS is say 10-15 you can expect shorter TDS life than if your RO is very efficient and your RO TDS is only 2 or 3.