Membranes must be flushed, there is no getting around that but the water does not have to be wasted, even if it goes to the sanitary sewer it gets recycled.
The average RO system is a 4:1 or 4 gallons waste or brine to 1 gallon of permeate or treated water system. Thats not a sbad as it sounds thugh, if you make 100 gallons a month you send 400 to the drain and the average water costs are aroung $3.00 per thousand gallons so you have paid $1.50 for a months usage. The 400 gallons goes to recharge the water table or be recycled and water golf courses or green belts. I don't recommend filling your washer since they only hold a few gallons and making even 3 gallons of RO/DI produces 12+/- gallons of waste and floods the laundry room. If anything run it out on the lawn or garden using an air gap to make sure you don't have any cross connections or backflow incidents.