I have similar issues with my wife .
we will go into a lfs ( local fish store ) and I’ll talk to them about everything from exporting nutrients , lighting , dosing , alk , cal consumption etc .
she gets frustrated but doesn’t ask questions .
She’s relatively new to the hobby .
she loves the tank when it’s clean and running nice .
she loves picking corals , fish , but the “work” part she doesn’t really understand , which will take time .
She always asked why we can’t “make it sparkle clean “ as some bad advice she got from a lfs
she was going to take all the rocks , sand , corals out and scrub everything while I was at work . Lol