Short answer: No.
I had a large well established tank. All parameters were stable and the tank was 3 years old. It was a shallow reef with a lot of Radion XR30’s. I forget PAR at sand bed but it was insane. Flow, nitrates, temp, salinity, dosing, and PH all beautiful.
I had always wanted a carpet anemone (sound familiar?). So my wife sourced one from an incredibly reputable boutique seller who claimed to have had the anemone for several months.
The thing arrived. It probably weighed 10lbs+. Put it in the tank. Opened up. Looked happy. Then it receded and started dying.
Yes, people keep them. Yes, they live. They more often than not do not. It is a magical combination of luck and circumstance we don’t understand that grants success.
Based on the number that die, one must wonder if the ones that do live are even living good lives.
They are not meant for aquariums. As far as I know they’re brought here in gray market if not black market circumstances. Carpet Anemones are (one of) the very specific creatures that gives this hobby a bad name. I didn’t fully realize it until I was standing there holding a dead creature in my hands to realize this was a horrible mistake. Let me save you the money and karma.
There are TONS of other anemones that do very well in home aquaria. I have a maxi/mini that’s on its way to 9” that’s living its best life. Eating and spawning.
You wouldn’t buy a penguin or a seal because “you have always wanted one.”
I’m sorry about your loss, but a single isolated incidents isn’t precedent for lack of success. Neither is my success, but just like with any species, there are proper methods to care for the different species of carpet anemones.
OP, when you say “carpet anemone”, you’re talking about three different species, two of which are more commonly found in the hobby (S. Gigantea and S. Haddoni). However, they require radically different conditions (in fact, opposite conditions). My expertise lies with Haddonis, not Gigantea, and I’ve been keeping them on and off for 20 years.
I personally find Haddoni anemones easy to keep as long as 1) they don’t have an infection or you’re prepared to treat the infection with Ciprofloxacin 2) as long as you have about 8cm+ of sand and 3) they aren’t getting much flow. 150 PAR is a bit low, but not a dealbreaker as long as you feed it regularly. I’ve had six Haddoni at ~225 PAR, three of them for over two years, and they’re doing fine. I feed them a few times per week.
Haddonis, IME, do *not* like very much water flow. Since you’re keeping LPS, your water flow is probably fine for them. SPS levels of water flow could easily result in them dying, they just don’t like it. Mine get barely enough water flow to move them, unless the pump is on pulse mode and generating a gentle surge wave (like a tidal zone).
I wouldn’t worry about them ‘feeling cramped’, they can and do adjust themselves into all kinds of shapes and sizes that change constantly.
They definitely want to be in the sand, with at least half of their body surrounded by rocks but with their foot in the sand, attached to a rock that’s buried or the bottom of the tank. I’ve never had a single Haddoni that was happy until it was in this kind of a position, and typically they prefer even more of their body surrounded.
In summary:
1) Get a healthy one (or treat with Ciprofloxacin, this might help:
https://www.reef2reef.com/threads/p...reatment-of-s-haddoni-carpet-anemones.888426/)
2) Place in 10cm of sand in a spot where the foot can attach under the sand, AND the body is surrounded at least 180 degrees with rock or the sides of the tank
3) Low flow!