Hello Coral Junky!
Im see your new to this forum as well. My experiences over the last 2 years have been mostly dismal save my current tank ( which I took down 2 weeks ago to upgrade). It was a 45g shallow tank, BB and high flow (65x). I had softies that I started with 2 years ago. Seeing as softies prefer nutrient rich "Dirty" water, they did not thrive and grow as I'd hoped. I never was able to detect nitrates after the cycle regardless of how much I fed. Keeping filter sock changed and skimmer running likely contributed to this. I believe that my tank was too clean for softies. They are now housed in a skimmer less 29G. Normal feeding and weekly WC's is my plan, which will hopefully provide the nutrients the kenya tree, GSP, Zoas and shrooms need to grow well.
In my experience,
Sand bed pros:
Looks more natural
Can keep sand dwelling critters
Cons:
require more maintenance ( cleaning)
possible sand storms
BB Pros
Unlimited flow options
Easy(er) to keep clean
Cons
Looks sterile
No sand critters
Just my personal opinion, as my experience is limited, I would start by cleaning sand bed well and up water changes, which should reduce nitrates If you do decide to pull the sand out siphon out a little with each water change. When I first pulled my sand out I lost some zoas and a damsel.