Mine has been with me for at least 4 years, he even went to live in a buddies tank for about a year. I couldn't tell you how old he is because he has been about the same size since I got him. He's definitely an adult as I watched him broadcast his goods all over my tank a few days ago
He has lived in big tanks, little tanks, very clean tanks, and very very dirty tanks. I am pretty sure he is unable to be killed lol. You should do fine with an urchin as long as you get one that is healthy. As someone else mentioned, they will pick up anything not glued down and wear it as a hat

It's funny until it's one of your expensive/favorite corals lol.