Zoa what,
I am ok with the time to let things mature.
I find very confusing the huge mix of answers when I search a question, or even visit my LFS. It has almost become a game. I have been to over 10 LFS within 3 hours of my house. Much of the wisdom passed from the local store on what I would hope be basics / fundamentals just swings all over the place.
My tank is six months since cycled. The tank has had rock/water for 9 months but my cycling got interrupted and what I now believe some bad information from two different LFS.
When in a high tech store near me, he advised me to reduce the size of my water changes and increase the frequency - his advice - weekly 10%. I have been doing monthly 25%. He advised on my magnesium and ALK numbers to do not use chemicals for the first year and get my tank working with filtration and water changes.
The other store that frankly has much better looking corals and fish but much more old school supplies - Kalkwasser vs reactor. Salifert testing vs Spintronic. This store advised me recently - don't do a water change until my Nitrates or Phosphates need dilution. I have been testing every three days and working to get my parameters in line. Currently temp 79.0, Salinity 1.026, Ph 7.8, Alk 9.8, Nitrate 12, calc 465, Magnesium 1440 and phosphates .13. My magnesium was 1200 two weeks ago, so I have been adding IONS magnesium supplement to work it up to 1400 goal.
Over the past 3 months I have killed a dozen frags - probably some poor choices for the stage of my tank, some with poor dipping technique and burned them, three that had a chance of surviving until my "might be reef safe Lemonpeel angel" ate the Duncan, Candy Cane and Zoas and some with parameter movement.
My view at this point - and is changing with the time in the aquarium is sorta like cooking - 10,000 ways to make dinner. Some terms are used casually such as "stable" "parameter swings" and "flow". What is the definition of a stable tank? What can I look at or measure that would tell me my tank has reached this goal? What is a parameter swing? If my ALK moves up from 9.4 to 9.9 in a week - is that too much? The packaging on Seachem and Brightwell products might be scientifically accurate but almost everything I read or hear talks about ALK in dK but Seachem much be in ppm thus involving 2.8 factor math. My "go to LFS" answered my flow question in terms I can understand...is the anemone out or closed up. If out -
Closed - too much flow (or digesting dinner)
Lazy fingers gently moving in different directions - flow close to perfect
Fingers all out to one size flapping like the leash behind the running dog - too much flow
Ok...back to my afternoon project of supergluing my fingers to the frames of my glasses
Thank you for the thought provoking post.
So much to learn...glad I am not one of my coral frags.