Too Generous to Accept?

[pshootr]

Sometimes things just work that way

 

[Reefer Matt Verified Media Partner]

Should I buy another coral from him and accept the Christmas Tree Worms for free or just tell him that it's too generous to accept for free and make an offer for the worms? The thing is, when he messaged me i had to open the message first and he can see i read it... knowing this, i replied thanking him and expressing my gratitude because i didn't want to leave it for him to see the message on "read" and think i was ungrateful...

You are under no obligation to buy anything. You can always say you thought about it, but can't accept it for free. From there, you can barter a deal that you are comfortable with. I personally don't like free things, and try to trade if the person won't take cash. That way, the matter is settled right then and there, and the other person will not have expectations of getting a free item later. (Though they might anyway)

 

[pshootr]

I used to be into reptiles. And a lot of people were very kind to me. So it's not much different here.

 

[livinlifeinBKK]

It sounds like a good will gesture to me also. Having a local source of aquarium grown animals may be a lot more valuable to him than a couple coral colonies. I wouldn't be surprised of he has multiple reasons either, could be the corals have been sitting to long in his systems and he wants the room for something that moves faster is an additional one I can think of.

The guy has great connections with other shops in the area as well! I think I'll buy a coral from him too though...he does have nice stuff.

 

[pshootr]

You are under no obligation to buy anything. You can always say you thought about it, but can't accept it for free. From there, you can barter a deal that you are comfortable with. I personally don't like free things, and try to trade if the person won't take cash. That way, the matter is settled right then and there, and the other person will not have expectations of getting a free item later. (Though they might anyway)

I love free things LOL.

The guy has great connections with other shops in the area as well! I think I'll buy a coral from him too though...he does have nice stuff.

Well there you go. He sounds like a good guy to make friends with.

 

[pshootr]

If you demonstrate your integrity and your will to have a relationship then I'm sure you guys will do just perfectly fine

 

[livinlifeinBKK]

You are under no obligation to buy anything. You can always say you thought about it, but can't accept it for free. From there, you can barter a deal that you are comfortable with. I personally don't like free things, and try to trade if the person won't take cash. That way, the matter is settled right then and there, and the other person will not have expectations of getting a free item later. (Though they might anyway)

That's the same as me, when I give something for free i don't expect reciprocation but many people feel different. I'll see what he has in stock coral wise and if he has something i want I'll buy it for his stated price and not try to lower him on it as long as it seems reasonable...if he doesn't have anything in stock i wanna get I'll offer him something for the worms and explain to him i don't feel comfortable accepting something free from someone i haven't met yet...he should understand that

 

[pshootr]

If you are clear with him of any deficiencies and are willing to compensate then I'm sure you will develop a great relationship

 

[pshootr]

I don't mean to sound like an ungrateful person but I'm always grateful for someone who is willing to give. If that makes any sense. There's nothing wrong with taking a gift as long as it is sincere

 

[pshootr]

If I offer someone something and they tell me no it would hurt my feelings

 

[pshootr]

This is the opposite perspective. But imagine when you want to do something nice for someone and they say no.

 

[livinlifeinBKK]

If you are clear with him of any deficiencies and are willing to compensate then I'm sure you will develop a great relationship

I'll go ahead and set up a time we can meet as well...he's a pretty busy guy apparently so I'll probably end up getting the coral and worms before we meet but that's a meeting I'll definitely be on time for. He may have additional reasons for wanting to move one of them but that certainly doesn't reduce the value of his offer even if that is the case. He definitely seems like a good connection to have and do future business with and hopefully we'll hit it off.

 

[pshootr]

I am confident that he is willing to talk with you just take it easy bro

 

[pshootr]

A loving family has history of giving. So it is only logical we enjoy it when our peers have the same ideals.

 

[joefishtank]

If I offer someone something and they tell me no it would hurt my feelings

My limit is saying are you sure 3 times otherwise I start getting mad if people are too generous and I don't want that.

 

[pshootr]

Embrace it

 

[pshootr]

See what happens

 

[pshootr]

Be studious and see what happens

 

[pshootr]

Sometimes you do not have to ask to receive

 

[pshootr]

Just be a good boy and see how it plays out