I understand the theory behind "seeding". I just don't think it works in practice. Neither do I think that the ugly stage in a reef tank's life cycle is inevitable or, as you put it, "are what they are". Here's why I think so...
I don't think the microbes present in the live rock used for seeding can propagate fast enough to outcompete the other bacteria, at least in the short term. In addition, the surfaces that are not live rock may not provide a suitable habitat for the microbial life present in the live rock. That will create a void. Nature will supply microbes that can survive on the bare surfaces to fill that void long before the more desirable bacteria in the live rock can get a foothold.
The live rock, along with the organisms it contains, and the biofilm/biomass that cover its surfaces, are a deterrent to pest algae and even to certain microbes like Cyano and Dinos. These organisms: 1) Reduce or bind nutrients needed for the pests to grow; 2) Compete for substrate on which the pests might otherwise grow; and 3) Consume the pests as they attempt to get a foothold. Dry rock does not have that advantage and will provide a place for those "ugly stage" pests to propigate.
I think that if you are going to attempt to seed a large amount of dry rock with a little live rock it does little harm. However, I think if you are spending a bunch of money on a lot of live rock, I would leave the dry rock out. Adding it in won't ruin the system, but it could cause an ugly stage that doesn't have to occur.