I completely understand! I am far from an expert, but can relate to your situation. I had the same concerns and felt like a fish out of water when I started my system. I have only set up my one aquarium, so take my advice with a grain of salt. There are some real experts here and I will not be offended if someone corrects me. When I started mine, it took 4 weeks before I saw any real movement in the cycle. I had to jump start it a little with an ammonia starter I bought at my local fish store. If I remember, I took the ammonia up to 10. As the ammonia droped, the nitrite spiked, then the nitrate spiked as the ammonia and nitrite went to 0.
Before adding anything, let's talk about what you have in there now. Remember, when starting a new ecosystem, you are trying to create a balance in the bacteria colonies to complete the nitrogen cycle. Let's cover the basics and forgive me if I sound condescending, I just want to insure that you are set up correctly.
1. Water: Size of your tank? Did you mix your own, or buy from LFS? Was the fresh water RODI, before adding salt? Chloromines (disinfectant sometimes used by a city in tap water) can do some really funny things, and most of the conditioners don't address it.
2. Rock: How many pounds of rock did you put in? Live rock or dead? Mix? If dead, did you scrub it muriatic acid? If dead was it completely clean of organic materials?
3. Substrate: How many pounds of sand (or gravel or crushed coral) did you put in? Live sand? Dead sand?
If all the rock and substrate is dead, you will need to add something to get the bacteria colonies going. If you started with some live rock or live sand, the good bacteria is in there and will start to do their thing. Also want to make sure you have enough rock for the bacteria to colonize in.
Most importantly, because you are starting a new system, don't worry too much, you really don't have much to loose if something goes wrong, and even if it does, it is easily corrected. Also, keep reading and researching. There great resources here and various places online to gather information. It is a little overwhelming at first, but it does get easier with time. Owning and maintaining a saltwater aquarium is a commitment and your journey is just beginning. The rewards of having a successful system are great! For fun, here's a shot of my little aquarium. It's now 10 months old.