What to do when you want to quit?

[H3rm1tCr@b]

When I want to quit, I remember that I’ve gotten this far so I can keep going!

 

[Rich Klein]

What to do when you want to quit?

It's inevitable I feel like. Not a normal everyday thought and not everyone thinks about it but I feel like most of us at some point feel like quitting the reef hobby. Today instead of focusing on why we want to quit sometimes let's focus on the positive of why we don't and why we didn't! Let's pass along some encouragement to someone who may be thinking of draining the tank at this moment.

1. When you want to quit what do you do that helps you regain focus and dedication to your tank?

2. Do you have a story where you should have quit but you didn't and now you're glad you didn't?


PLEASE INSPIRE SOMEONE BY SHARING A PHOTO FROM YOUR REEF!

My life would seem a lot duller without my 165 gal magical undersea garden.

 

[krash7172]

When I get discouraged I try to dial it back to the basics

This isn't just a good reefing practice! When life gets crazy, take a step back, breathe and focus on the basics. I've simplified my setup. No more frag tank, fuge or apex. I keep only the most important water params in check and I am having success.

It's important to note that every reef tank and reefer is different. I think there needs to be a balance between the tank and tank owner. Rather than quitting, scale back a bit when there is an imbalance. Stick with fish and coral that are compatible with your lifestyle. If you try to change to meet your tank requirements, you will likely eventually burn out.

 

[Alex_star]

I’m thinking about quitting because I faced various problems so I got my very first Saltwater Aquarium it was a redsea max E 170 I had it for one year I let it cycle and I added two clownish they’re doing fine but for some reason, they act like too big scaredy-cats really shy Every time I go close to the tank, they hide from me, so it time for me to add some other fish I added a blue spotted jaw fish he’s doing fine so I ended up adding another fish after a week he cost me $$150 the next day. I don’t see him. a second blood red fire shrimp as well and the second day I don’t see neither of them. It’s like everything is dying, and I put all my effort in to it and I hate it whenever one person brings up. What are your water parameters shut up, bro! They’re good! I put on my effort to making sure that they’re where they need to be, but somehow it seems like everything is dying even though my water quality quality is good spent so much money on this crap and it’s like my dreams of having a beautiful aquarium in my room. It’s fading away. I’m done with this hobby

 

[Alex_star]

I’m thinking about quitting because I faced various problems so I got my very first Saltwater Aquarium it was a redsea max E 170 I had it for one year I let it cycle and I added two clownish they’re doing fine but for some reason, they act like too big scaredy-cats really shy Every time I go close to the tank, they hide from me, so it time for me to add some other fish I added a blue spotted jaw fish he’s doing fine so I ended up adding another fish after a week he cost me $$150 the next day. I don’t see him. a second blood red fire shrimp as well and the second day I don’t see neither of them. It’s like everything is dying, and I put all my effort in to it and I hate it whenever one person brings up. What are your water parameters shut up, bro! They’re good! I put on my effort to making sure that they’re where they need to be, but somehow it seems like everything is dying even though my water quality quality is good spent so much money on this crap and it’s like my dreams of having a beautiful aquarium in my room. It’s fading away. I’m done with this hobby

not to mention, I hate this hobby because the community makes me feel left out. I noticed there’s a lot of people on here who just ignore me and even rude people ignorant and act like they’re smarter than others. I feel like I don’t belong here. I feel like I don’t belong with these groups of people.

 

[Crabs McJones]

I’m thinking about quitting because I faced various problems so I got my very first Saltwater Aquarium it was a redsea max E 170 I had it for one year I let it cycle and I added two clownish they’re doing fine but for some reason, they act like too big scaredy-cats really shy Every time I go close to the tank, they hide from me, so it time for me to add some other fish I added a blue spotted jaw fish he’s doing fine so I ended up adding another fish after a week he cost me $$150 the next day. I don’t see him. a second blood red fire shrimp as well and the second day I don’t see neither of them. It’s like everything is dying, and I put all my effort in to it and I hate it whenever one person brings up. What are your water parameters shut up, bro! They’re good! I put on my effort to making sure that they’re where they need to be, but somehow it seems like everything is dying even though my water quality quality is good spent so much money on this crap and it’s like my dreams of having a beautiful aquarium in my room. It’s fading away. I’m done with this hobby

I think part of the issue is when someone asks parameters and are met with "they're good" instead of actual numbers, they get put off to helping. Most of the time when information isn't willing to be given out, people see it as information isn't willing to be taken in and don't want to waste their time or energy investing in someone who won't accept help or advice. Not saying that's you, but just from what I've seen from many years on this site.

 

[Alex_star]

Let me give you an example, hey yo my aquarium reef light doesn’t work… oh, what are your water parameters?

Oh that’s why it’s your water parameters. That’s why your light isn’t turning on ‍

Like what does that have anything to do with my water parameters?

Listen, I know what you mean but that’s not what I’m talking about. I know that the information of getting to know the other person parameters is important to find out what the problem is, but that’s not what I’m trying to get at,

What I’m trying to say is most of the time people Ask about your parameters even when there’s problems which have nothing to do with the water parameters themselves but Rather something else that’s causing the problem and is quite obvious