That is understandable. I don't wish to burst your bubble, but I honestly don't see the end result you are hoping for. Part of building a new tank IS the ugly phase. It CAN be limited to an extent, but avoided entirely? Unlikely.
We have not even begun to explore your plans for livestock here. The variables in a new tank are enormous. The advice we can give is limited to our own experience and reading.
Reefing is the "top end" of aquarium keeping. The simplicity of many other tanks, simply does not bear out when it comes to reefs. These are specialized and dynamic systems that require a level of patience and maintenance that are simply unnecessary with most other aquariums.
Spend your time between now and your proposed move, reading everything you can about your envisioned reef. Study fish compatibility, coral compatibility, Needed water parameters for the stock you intend, feeding habits, nutrient levels, and on and on...
Cycling the tank is but the first and smallest step.