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How much do you owe her? Yall are going to get this dude in trouble. They are just clownfish!
 
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Well I think I had a small victory... She told me that I could get them but I have to pay for them with my tank. So... I happen to have a few extra things in the garage that are now up on Craigslist and I have one frag of zoas that will be on there soon as well. They'll be in their new home soon! And I liked the idea of naming them 40 and bucks so I think I might go with it! LOL!
 
This is cracking me up!
I just broke the news to my husband of how much I spent at the PZ live sale... just last week. :) He was exasperated but, it was so long ago he couldn't get too upset now. :rolleyes:

Good luck! If I lived closer I'd buy your frag!

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NaClWater72756 said:
This is cracking me up!
I just broke the news to my husband of how much I spent at the PZ live sale... just last week. :) He was exasperated but, it was so long ago he couldn't get too upset now. :rolleyes:

Good luck! If I lived closer I'd buy your frag!

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Part of the reason I started this thread was because I thought it would get some funny responses! LOL! :p
 
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MelissaKathryn said:
Why don't you create a payment plan with her? Go and get it notorized. This way, you pay her a certain amount and then you have actual money that you can budget out for things.. then it can be like a REAL car payment. If you want, you can pay it off early. If not, you can purchase the clowns with it. If she is iffy, just do a 2.5% interest rate. It's very low, but it sounds like she has no interest rate anyway.. so she may be more likely. It also helps you guys not be a one-sided relationship. Take my word for it.. it is WAY better to do this when loved ones loan money. Nobody feels ripped off either OR held back. My family is full of entreprenuers. I had a scholarship for undergrad, parents paid for grad school. The whole time, they paid living expenses. When I was done with grad school, I immediately wanted to open my own business. My mom loaned me $10,000 with my car as collateral at 2.5% interest and it all worked out great. We had it stipulated that I would start paying back and interest wouldn't incur until after 1 year (because businesses usually take about 3 years to get going and i needed to immediately invest back into the company). If anything ever happened, I called ahead of time and gave her a heads up that I was still waiting for a check from a client to clear, etc. BUT it was AMAZING because my parents didn't have anything to hold over my head... After the 1 year grace period I was allotted, I was able to pay it back in less than 2 years. BUT I had to be REALLY HONEST with them and the parameters I promised. You can get one drawn up at legalzoom.com for like ridiculously cheap if you aren't comfortable with the legal jargon.

But like I said, this is what my extended family uses with loved ones. Anytime it wasn't utilized, "disaster" occured. Generally someone becomes disgruntled with the other unless clear boundaries and expectations are set. Its not fair to her to watch you spend your money elsewhere when she is owed money and it is not fair to you to have this being hung over your head when hobbies are healthy. Just make sure you budget out your expenses ahead of time and know what you are getting into.

That is my 100% honest opinion. I've seen too many couples break up, clients feel jilted, etc. to not speak up. I just feel this is the most honest solution and will prevent problems in the future.
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This made me laugh its only $40 for the fish :p everyone has spare equipment etc to sell which would pay for it.

If its owed then I would pay her 1st considering she got you the car ;)
 
UPDATE!!! I am the proud parent of two awesome mocha ocellaris clowns! I had to give the girlfriend naming rights but that's worth the trade off. Pretty sure she's going to name them Nickel and Dime though. Thanks for everyone's help! It was pretty entertaining as well! ;)
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Esage said:
How about grow some balls and stop depending on your girlfriend.
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Depending on his girlfriend? He borrowed money.... If you can't tell things are kinda tough right now.. And he said he's paying for them with things from his tank? As I see it he didn't even use her money for them. He sold some frags


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This is why, when my husband really wants something, I never tell him no. Because, there will be a time when I will want something and he won't be able to tell me no... There's always a motive.....:angel:
 
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I have been in this hobby for about 6 years or so. And for the most part I have never spent a dime on anything. When I bring home bags of corals and fish its always the same.
"How much was all that?" This ooh I traded that green coral in the back for them, or a Buddy in my fish club gave them to me.lol
She's smarter now so I usualy just toss new stuff in while she's gone. Hahaha
So I would say even tho you ended up with the fish you lost. Should have just told her a buddy broke down his tank and needed a new home. Then you would get to name the nickle and dime.
 
Connie said:
This is why, when my husband really wants something, I never tell him no. Because, there will be a time when I will want something and he won't be able to tell me no... There's always a motive.....:angel:
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LOL I mostly do the same thing with mine. I am however golden for a LONG time now, as he just bought a new 27ft travel trailer. :tongue:
 
I've never had to pay back my GF/Wife/or fiance before and I don't know your situation and why you had to pay her back but next time you get in this situation ask her if you can pay her back by giving her a nice foot, neck, back, or leg message. The key is not to get yourself in this situation again.
 
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