For anyone who has been following. It has been about 3-31/2 weeks since my 50% wc. Two weeks after that i did about a 35% wc. I have continued to use no3po4' but it has been cut way back as instructed on directions. about 8ml now back from 25ml. I stopped all gfo and carbon, fusion 1 and 2 . Even reef energy a and b.
Everything looks alot better, except the HA. Even the maroon is healing and looking much better.
2 days ago i started with gfo again, and yesterday the HA took a good hit and is finally letting go from the rocks. It is early yet, but I am very confident that a few more MAJOR wc and my tank will be spot on again.
So my conclusion is, cut out all the unnecessary crap, use a good quality salt, good R0/di water, and DO your water changes religiously. Hind sight, Although I felt I was doing my wc, they just were not big enough to keep up with the size of my tank, percentage wise, and because of this, my phosphates got out of hand and then over time and a little bit of neglact here and there , things were able to spiral out of control. I also believe my water flow was way underated for my tank, which I doubled. I even think that the gfo can be removed once the HA is gone and used only as needed, not continuously as I had been using for years.
So kudos to all who said get back to the basics and do some huge waterchanges, for me, this has been the turning point to a healthier tank and healthier fish! I guess sometimes simply is the best!