Understood . It should be calibrated. I used the calibration fluid. Ill check it again. I noticed my parameters dropped a bit from initial fill but I attributed it to absorption and still thought it was ok since it was in proper range. Im not big on frequent water changes, but maybe I need to change my mind and approach. I started doing weekly 5 gallon changes once it start to go south, but it didnt help at all so I went back to b-weekly or monthly even.
I agree with @reacclimating 2 the hobby, there is way to big of a difference between the salt you are using and the parameters in your tank. Have you checked to see if you calibration fluid is expired? The salt you are using mixes to much higher levels than you have in your tank at an SG of 35. With that salt, your Mag should be in the 1380+ range, Calc in the 450+ range and Alk in the 11-12 range. This tells me that your SG really isn't 35.
@donomite, you really should check the calibration of your refractometer before every use, especially if you are mixing your own water. Before each water change, I check the calibration on my refractometer, then check my new water from the LFS (which they claim to be 1.025) and my tank water. Since I know what all three should be at, I know my refractometer is giving me a correct reading. Also, you need to make sure that the cover glass is sitting level on the refractometer. If it isn't, it can give you bad readings even if it was calibrated correctly.


