My love life took a crash when my wife was suffering the trials of breast cancer. She is still alive but I don’t know who she is after mental health issues wiped out our marriage and family life that was a blessing before cancer and is now something else. I was not prepared for what has happened and keeping my covenant vow has been a struggle for both of us. I don’t have a significant other or any romantic sidekicks and I’ve had to go with the punches and depression that now plague my existence.
Anyone who has read many of my posts probably thinks I’m a crazy and happy guy. I posted a few things about this on a local forum and no one’s bothered to reply, “nothing serious about him” but no concern for my invitations to take a dive off the bridge tomorrow was a disappointment? I posted to find someone local with time to hang out and it appears that everyone has other things going on that keep them busy with no time to spend with me. Tough times and more to come, but this thread is about recovery.
My plan is to keep going forward and if I can I will bury my wife someday and then I will be looking for a gal (lucky guy
@exnisstech !) that knows how to play reef Scrabble with me. I’m glad to know that they are out there if I need them, and if I outlive this relationship.
My tank got a stick plague that I couldn’t identify the cause and I eventually just let it go and the tank walls became covered in coralline algae so that I didn’t have to see what was going on with it. I kept feeding the fish and eventually my wife started asking for a little fish tank in the house so that she could see the fish again.
It is not a year old yet but the fish look happy now in the house. I did not finish cleaning it when I got home from my last call out but I’m a lot more patient and humble from all of the changes we’ve had.
My reef has slowly been getting rebooted since Last November and I have scraped a few portholes through the encrusting reef organisms so that I can keep my eye on the coral. So far the killing plague has not reappeared and the sticks and clams are trying to catch up with the blue ridge colony that has survived the plague and is now breaking the surface in the back corner of the tank.
I’ve tried to scape the front panel clean a few times in the last couple of years but the rapidly growing algae fills it back in before I finish. If it wants to grow then I guess I should keep on trying to reef and see if I can’t get our life back together?
Looks horrible in daylight!
I have a blue picture from a few weeks back somewhere
The green dot was a hitchhiker on a chunk of Australian live rock that I added to improve the micro biome. The aiptasia are getting out of hand again but I have a Copperband butterfly that is about to move from the other tank into the main reef to eat them into submission.
He has finished the garden of glass nems that were covering this tank. I wish he would eat bubble algae too.
So I have been familiar with minor crashes and I keep thinking about quitting but what fun would that be?