This addition makes me a bad person

[Tsev03]

I have been asking for an apex controller for 2 years. Every birthday, Anniversary, Mother’s Day, and Christmas. I have even told my husband to not get me anything for all of those for a year so that he could save up for the apex. And I would have been much happier at every occasion if I got a card saying blank amount is going into a savings account for ur Christmas present than all the expensive gifts I got instead of the controller. Well this year I was trying to make him feel better when I said I understand that we can not afford the apex. He got this weird look on his face and said something like “what why r u saying that” I responded with all the things that have put a dent in our finances but then later on when I was thinking about the way he reacted I got very curious and hacked his email. I got so excited when I saw an email from BRS. I was still pretty excited when I read it was a Jr version of apex. I started reading all about it. Soon the excitement started to fade when I realized it only came with a temp probe and all u can control with it is basically lights and monitor the temperature. I already have nice timers on my lights and my heaters have temp controllers added. Then I started looking at all the add-ons. Oh my they r very expensive! It’s would be a long time before I could afford to get any of them. I was depressed for a few days. Then last night I couldn’t sleep and I had a few glasses of wine while I add modules and probes to my wish list at BRS. It did not take long for me to realize that just to add salinity and pH the total price up to $600 now and you only get 4 outlets compared to 8. You can only add up to 7 thing to the Jr while the other one u can add 250. I would have to run a cable from my router to my tank and they r not close to each w. Cable would have to go across a doorway and that would be ugly. By now the wine is hitting me and I remember that marine Depot has a payment plan. I tell myself I’m just going to see if they approve me. They did. Now the wheels in my intoxicated brain r really spinning. My husband is definitely not an observant person and the packages will come while he is at work. I could just switch the boxes and he would probably never notice. Then I’ll return the Jr and pay that to marine depot. Sounds great right? I think so. Ugh now they r out of the controller, they had the one that comes with a display for an extra $100 but I would probably never use it. So I take this as a sign and I just go to bed. But today that’s all I can think about. I’ve had no wine so nothing to blame it on. I check the website this morning and still out of stock. I probably checked it every hour. Then about an hour ago it’s back in stock so i take it as another sign and I do it! Now I’m feeling very bad about it but not bad enough to undo it. I am coming up with all kinds of rationality’s. I sound just like an addict when they do bad things. Here’s a few that have gone though my mind, I spend that much on his Christmas presents. I pay them out so i don’t go over the agreed budget. Oh this one is really good, I got a microwave for Christmas last year. I had not asked for a microwave especially not a $300 one. Last year he got a Remington rifle. This year he is getting a semi automatic 45. I don’t buy clothes unless they r on the clearance rack and even then it’s almost never. I only spend about a $100 per year on makeup and getting my hair done. I’m a very good budget shopper so I most likely save us that much per year just on groceries. I could go on and on but u get the idea. What about y’all? Am I the only one acting like a drug addict scheming to get the next fix?

 

[seamonster]

More wine, please!! [emoji23][emoji23][emoji23]! Too funny!! Fake it when the Jr comes.. then make an excuse.. say it’s not working right... then return it for the good one and have your husband pay the difference. Real easy!!

 

[Servillius]

Get a Digital Aquatics controller. Much more reasonable and I actually dumped my Apex for it because I got sick of having to hire an IT tech (okay, my brother in law, but he drinks a lot of my booze and smokes my cigars!) in order to program or update it.

You can get their junior for $100 and start using it and upgrade as it fits your budget.

Also, have you ever seen Breaking Bad? I mean I’m not suggesting anything... (I’m kidding).

 

[Tsev03]

Get a Digital Aquatics controller. Much more reasonable and I actually dumped my Apex for it because I got sick of having to hire an IT tech (okay, my brother in law, but he drinks a lot of my booze and smokes my cigars!) in order to program or update it.

You can get their junior for $100 and start using it and upgrade as it fits your budget.

Also, have you ever seen Breaking Bad? I mean I’m not suggesting anything... (I’m kidding).

Omg no I haven’t seen it but I have heard a lot about it.

 

[madweazl]

Why would you log into his email? You don't think that is unbelievably invasive? I couldn't even imagine doing something like that to my wife. I totally understand wanting something and doing everything in my power to make it happen but I couldn't do that. To that end though, the Reef Angel is a fraction the price and will do everything you could imagine and is far cheaper...

Edit: PS. Sorry I'm being judgmental; I've had a few drinks

 

[Chris8232]

That was pretty funny. You may need to seek rehabilitation! Sneaky reef attic, it's a epidemic.

 

[Fumanchu]

lol......

I love it

You work hard all year and put up with crap everyday. Do what makes you happy and if that's an Apex so be it you don't want a DA reefkeeper you want an Apex . You only live once..

Happy reefing

 

[saltyfilmfolks]

Make sure he gets you the apex T shirt too!!!!

 

[Crabs McJones]

Why would you log into his email? You don't think that is unbelievably invasive? I couldn't even imagine doing something like that to my wife. I totally understand wanting something and doing everything in my power to make it happen but I couldn't do that. To that end though, the Reef Angel is a fraction the price and will do everything you could imagine and is far cheaper...

Edit: PS. Sorry I'm being judgmental; I've had a few drinks

I'm inclined to sort of agree with you. If my wife went rooting theough my email I would not be happy about it. I have nothing to hide, but id feel untrusted and upset that I no longer get to surprise her with a gift that she wanted. Oh well, congrats on the apex! I hope to get one day too

 

[Tsev03]

Why would you log into his email? You don't think that is unbelievably invasive? I couldn't even imagine doing something like that to my wife. I totally understand wanting something and doing everything in my power to make it happen but I couldn't do that. To that end though, the Reef Angel is a fraction the price and will do everything you could imagine and is far cheaper...

Edit: PS. Sorry I'm being judgmental; I've had a few drinks

I can see why it would bother some people but we have each other check our emails from time to time. But we usually don’t do it in December because of stuff like this. So I did kinda break an unwritten rule. But he does know me well enough to know that I’m the kind of person that likes knowing much more than being surprised. I have figured out almost every present in the past 7 years. He also knows all the stories of me unwrapping presents as a child ad rewrapping them with low one ever knowing. So I dot think that’s going to be a big deal with him. Unlike the spending much more money than he knows about which might be a big deal to him but the money will not be coming out of our account and will it interfere with bills getting paid it will cow out of the extra money I make doing other extra jobs. I can admit that the deceiving bothers me. And I usually come clean on everything in the end. Ugh thanks for making me feel even more lol

 

[Tsev03]

I'm inclined to sort of agree with you. If my wife went rooting theough my email I would not be happy about it. I have nothing to hide, but id feel untrusted and upset that I no longer get to surprise her with a gift that she wanted. Oh well, congrats on the apex! I hope to get one day too

I see ur point. I have a hard time with this going both ways. I almost never last till the gift giving day with out telling people what I got them. To me I like giving something that people will really like. I’m my family before my husband we usually ask what people want and then give them that so not much of a surprise there. My daughter from my first marriage usually sends me pictures and I get exactly what she wants I even text her Pictures of the stuff to make sure it’s the right thing. I know for some people that takes a lot out of it but it makes my daughter very happy when she gets what she wants instead of something that is just ok or something that’s wrong and she then feels bad about exchanging it so she keeps something that she will never use. All of this probably just make me sound worse ugh

 

[elisa h]

Haha I think its fine you went through his email. It was over excitement for a christmas present so why not lol. Anyways, I'm with you on the apex being t0o expensive. Hundreds of dollars just to monitor salinity and temp! Then more ungodly amounts of money just to add the modules that make it useful. Don't understand how an aquarium controller is more money than most home monitor/controllers!

 

[coil1002]

I bought mine the same way. That payment plan gets me in trouble. I have been looking at the kessil 700 as of late. You deserve the apex. I love mine.

Just remember two things.
1 wait a week before calibrating the salinity probe just let it sit in the sump.
2. Float the bag of calibration solution in the tank so it' the same temp as the tank before you calibrate it.

 

[Coralfuture]

I love this story and I as a man that buys my wife the tank stuff she wants. We do not have a controller of any kind. However I really like the apex and have not seen the others in action but don’t feel it makes them any worse just different. Anyways I say your safe and my wife hacks my emails regularly and there isn’t a Christmas gift I have ever gotten her she doesn’t know about a month in advance. (She gets her gifts as I buy them now and nothing Christmas Day)

 

[Tsev03]

I love this story and I as a man that buys my wife the tank stuff she wants. We do not have a controller of any kind. However I really like the apex and have not seen the others in action but don’t feel it makes them any worse just different. Anyways I say your safe and my wife hacks my emails regularly and there isn’t a Christmas gift I have ever gotten her she doesn’t know about a month in advance. (She gets her gifts as I buy them now and nothing Christmas Day)

Thank you!

This morning we were talking and he says something about what he got me and how I haven’t even asked him what it was, that is very unusual I’m usually begging for hints. I tell him he already gave it away the other day with his reaction. He said well you could be wrong. Oh no I’m not wrong because after you acted that way I hacked ur email. He tells be how he called costumer service and they assured him the Jr was a great place to start. Under my breath I say they lied but I fixed it, he hears (I was surprised cause his hearing is bad) My husband says what have u done? I try to avoid the question but it’s really hard with I’m looking at me so I tell him what I did. It went very well and I feel so much better. It’s like a weight has been lifted and now I can just be happy about getting a new apex!

 

[Coralfuture]

Thank you!

This morning we were talking and he says something about what he got me and how I haven’t even asked him what it was, that is very unusual I’m usually begging for hints. I tell him he already gave it away the other day with his reaction. He said well you could be wrong. Oh no I’m not wrong because after you acted that way I hacked ur email. He tells be how he called costumer service and they assured him the Jr was a great place to start. Under my breath I say they lied but I fixed it, he hears (I was surprised cause his hearing is bad) My husband says what have u done? I try to avoid the question but it’s really hard with I’m looking at me so I tell him what I did. It went very well and I feel so much better. It’s like a weight has been lifted and now I can just be happy about getting a new apex!

1st all I can say is HECK YEAH!!! and yeah customer service who he spoke to lied for the short and easy sale ROFL!! Now just make sure he knows how happy you are and you are sure to get many amazing and expensive addons for Christmas each following year!!! Best wishes for the rest of this year and many more happy stories to come!

 

[TheLadyCrash]

1st all I can say is HECK YEAH!!! and yeah customer service who he spoke to lied for the short and easy sale ROFL!! Now just make sure he knows how happy you are and you are sure to get many amazing and expensive addons for Christmas each following year!!! Best wishes for the rest of this year and many more happy stories to come!

I don’t think BRS lied to him as they are a super-reputable company. If he asked for a “starter” controller and told them his budget, it makes sense they would recommend the jr.

 

[Velcro]

I don’t think BRS lied to him as they are a super-reputable company. If he asked for a “starter” controller and told them his budget, it makes sense they would recommend the jr.

Agreed. BRS is legit. MD has to offer credit cards and steal video ideas to stay in the game.

 

[John Gemmel]

Dang I wanted Apex to but they are high and such but at least he tried to make you happy!! To me all the wrong reason of Christmas! Not to be mean and such but if I ever wanted anything I will just save myself and get it! Gifts are gifts they suppose to come from the heart lol!let me stop part of me understands I asked my girlfriend what she wants and never get a response on what she wants so atleast you told him what you wanted! .45 handgun doesn't cost as much as apex thou. $799 for apex is little high but I'm saving myself for one hopefully I'll have one when the alk and ca monster thing comes out! Sorry if I sound rude !!merr Christmas thou to u and your family

 

[Daltrey]

I once tricked my wife into this

And she got me back with this