i've installed bulkheads to brutes/buckets many times now. I've used CPR, Lifegard, and those white home depot ones (someone here had pictured them as well.) I've used threadxslip, threadxthread, all sorts of variations. I've installed them flange in, flange out, etc, depending on access and which side i needed the thread or slip fittings (if it was slipxthread or threadxslip)
I've never had one leak when done correctly regardless of ANY of that. And I would never use a uniseal on a bucket i feel this is less reliable than a bulkhead regardless of the flat vs curved thing. A brute trash can is not made of metal. The thing should flex and bend and seal pretty easily. I've even installed them onto narrower diameter buckets (meaning larger radius) made out of thicker material, i find no reason this should prevent a proper seal in my experience.
Also, there's nothing wrong with giving a bulkhead like a quarter turn with a gigantic wrench. Many manufacturers even say this is what you're supposed to do - hand tighten, then 1/4 turn with a wrench. Yeah, you could crack the bulkhead, but it's already leaking. At this point, i'd be just replacing it with another bulkhead and calling it a day. It's probably either: a bad bulkhead, a bad flange/gasket, a badly drilled hole, some combination of these that just refuses to line up, etc.