Skynyrd Fish
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Ha I just read my post. I meant your BFF! LOL
Urgh seriously.
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Sarah24!
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Trust me I definitely plan on having a long talk with her. Not only was it kinda mean, I hadn’t planned food wise for it , so had to go to the store quick. In addition he made me very uncomfortable, specially with the corals, but even more in a creepy way. He literally was always lol staring at me which I found odd and creepy, but asked me for my number, and tried several times to give me hugs. Some of these were when his gf was not around, and others when she was. She told him to leave me alone which was nice. But I won’t give my number to him, and I avoided his hugs hopefully give him a clue. So saying no to the corals will be kinda easy for me, cause I don’t wish to be around him, and obvious other reasons. I try not to be dramatic but really was curious on the price on what he offered me on my corals.
Trust me I definitely plan on having a long talk with her. Not only was it kinda mean, I hadn’t planned food wise for it , so had to go to the store quick. In addition he made me very uncomfortable, specially with the corals, but even more in a creepy way. He literally was always lol staring at me which I found odd and creepy, but asked me for my number, and tried several times to give me hugs. Some of these were when his gf was not around, and others when she was. She told him to leave me alone which was nice. But I won’t give my number to him, and I avoided his hugs hopefully give him a clue. So saying no to the corals will be kinda easy for me, cause I don’t wish to be around him, and obvious other reasons. I try not to be dramatic but really was curious on the price on what he offered me on my corals.
Skynyrd Fish
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Creeper.com he was trying to work the double play. King Jerk. (Kid friendly wording on my part)
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Sarah24!
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@paphater lol oh I see, lol sorry I had moved to Seattle from Boise for my medical eduction. Then I started my residency down here in Boise, last year. In that process I was drugged senseless into staying in Boise. I very much susupect my parents as the so called armed drug dealers who drugged me senseless. 
(FYI they didn’t really drug me lol, but they did make me feel super guilty for not coming back home, it was super bad of them).
(FYI they didn’t really drug me lol, but they did make me feel super guilty for not coming back home, it was super bad of them).
Fin
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Oh wow! That dude has no redeeming qualities, does he? I would definitely tell your friend not to bring that guy around your home anymore and I would make sure your friend realizes that he was hitting on you right under her nose. He doesn't seem to have any respect for her, or you either, if he thought you would betray your friend by taking up with him the first time you met him. The bull about the corals was bad enough, but the other part of the experience was really even worse. You have been around some particularly poor male behavior lately.
Can't say enough what a jerk and a creep this guy is.Hello,
So I definitely need a consensus my friends on something. I had a friend over in which she brought her bf along that was a first meeting. (He wasn’t as polite and nice as I thought but oh well). Anyway he also does a saltwater reef, and liked two of my corals a lot. In which he bugged my all night and offered me money to take them home tonight. In which I responded as to I have to sleep on it. So he wanted my Aussie lobo, and my multi colored trac, in which the price he offered to me threw me off. He said since their every day common corals they are not worth much, but he would give me extra because he is nice.
I have had these for awhile, but they were much smaller. When I purchased them, it was 145 for the trac, and 75 for the lobo. I’m certain the lfs marked them up etc, but he offered me 15 for the lobo and said that was generous, and 40 for the trac and he said that was very generous. So 55 for both and I just don’t think that was correct. I have a war face scoly and he said he would do that one also for 50 to add to his collection. Those are normally like 150 I have thought.
Am I wrong or just greedy help
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You certainly are able to stand your ground.
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Good for you!
Hope you don't have to deal with him again. He sounds like someone who will try to take advantage of any situation.
Brew12
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As requested, here is a picture of my "girls". Bailey is the Yellow Lab, Brandy is the Border Collie/Irish Setter mix. The first picture is from this winter, the other 2 are what they looked like when we rescued them almost 9 years ago. Hard to believe they were supposed to be put down because they couldn't get adopted. It's going to break my heart when they are gone.
As for the coral/guy situation.... being kind and professional is one thing but guys are jerks. Expect us to act that way and you will never be disappointed. Some days you may even be pleasantly surprised. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be kind and professional, but there is nothing wrong with being pleasantly cold toward us until we prove we should be treated otherwise.
Edit: ooops... linked the wrong top picture. That is actually from a few years ago. They don't look much different, just a little more grey in the face.
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Nice looking dogs! I have a pair of huskies and I feel the same way about them. We don't have any kids, so maybe more attached to them than we should be.As requested, here is a picture of my "girls". Bailey is the Yellow Lab, Brandy is the Border Collie/Irish Setter mix. The first picture is from this winter, the other 2 are what they looked like when we rescued them almost 9 years ago. Hard to believe they were supposed to be put down because they couldn't get adopted. It's going to break my heart when they are gone.
As for the coral/guy situation.... being kind and professional is one thing but guys are jerks. Expect us to act that way and you will never be disappointed. Some days you may even be pleasantly surprised. That doesn't mean you shouldn't be kind and professional, but there is nothing wrong with being pleasantly cold toward us until we prove we should be treated otherwise.
Edit: ooops... linked the wrong top picture. That is actually from a few years ago. They don't look much different, just a little more grey in the face.
Dom274
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You are mixing sentimental value with material value. Flip your concept around with something nobody has sentimental value for, say a chunk of copper - It still has value, whatever the going rate of scrap copper is... Okay, maybe my analogy isn't that great either lol. My point is that this poor girl seems to be a magnet for predatory people - She should know the fair market value so she can easily identify people like this in the future. Good Luck Sarah!
Brew12
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True, but for most of us with reef tanks, sentimental value means more than the material value. Personally, I don't track the names of the corals I buy because I don't care. I want my tank to look nice and enjoy it.
I understand you concern based on some of her posts, but I don't share it. She may not have built up as much scar tissue as some of us older folks but she has an underlying strength which will protect her from predators. You don't make it through med school, kick your brother out, and take care of nephews without having strong resolve. Part of maturing is learning how to balance being nice with being stern and recovering when mistakes are made along those lines.
If she ever decides she wants to sell them, I agree. Otherwise, all she has to do is say no. Why should she care what a coral is worth if she enjoys it and doesn't want to sell it, even if offered way more than fair market value?
Sounds like your tank will be ok. Don’t let the pee gross you out...just remember all the muck your protein skimmers pulls out of that beautifully clear reef water we all have!! At least your nephews contribution was organic!! Sounds like nephew needs to be shown how to clean the skimmer (and feed the fish) [emoji15][emoji6]
@paphater lol oh I see, lol sorry I had moved to Seattle from Boise for my medical eduction. Then I started my residency down here in Boise, last year. In that process I was drugged senseless into staying in Boise. I very much susupect my parents as the so called armed drug dealers who drugged me senseless.
Aren't parents awful?
Are you at Luke's or Als?
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@Brew12 lol your kids are sooooo adorable, I bet they are just wonderful kiddos. I haven’t built up much to be honest and I am overly naive, based on that I have a good heart and like to see people happy. I often fall prey to mean people for some odd reason both with males and females, (sadly more males, I get don’t know how many a week who ask me to marry or date them). I seem to attract dramatic females who seem to be friends but always have a motive. So far most of my friends are on here and from the er. I had to block the guy who came over because he ended up getting my number from my friend, Urgh! Not only did he bug me relentlessly about the coral, but asked me out on a date. In which I sent copies to my friend and now she thinks I’m in on it lol seriously no, I don’t sent anyone like that in my life.
@Dom274 yes your right to an extent on most things I fall prey because I’m naive and good hearted to often. It’s very hard for me to be confrontational to people in all aspects. With my brother most of that was from my dad kicking him out, my brother just kinda ignores me. Getting through medical school was easy, nobody bugged me all we did was study. But I am learing, and trying to be on guard hopefully. I have always trusted people with anything from the get go, I treat everyone like I want to be. People always seem to need me for something, but once they have it I’m no longer of value. That part hurts badly.
@clover128 lol yes they are helping me now but back with their dad now.
@paphater lol I adore my parents they are lovely and they hate when I’m not close. I’m at st als.
@Brew12 lol your kids are sooooo adorable, I bet they are just wonderful kiddos. I haven’t built up much to be honest and I am overly naive, based on that I have a good heart and like to see people happy. I often fall prey to mean people for some odd reason both with males and females, (sadly more males, I get don’t know how many a week who ask me to marry or date them). I seem to attract dramatic females who seem to be friends but always have a motive. So far most of my friends are on here and from the er. I had to block the guy who came over because he ended up getting my number from my friend, Urgh! Not only did he bug me relentlessly about the coral, but asked me out on a date. In which I sent copies to my friend and now she thinks I’m in on it lol seriously no, I don’t sent anyone like that in my life.
@Dom274 yes your right to an extent on most things I fall prey because I’m naive and good hearted to often. It’s very hard for me to be confrontational to people in all aspects. With my brother most of that was from my dad kicking him out, my brother just kinda ignores me. Getting through medical school was easy, nobody bugged me all we did was study. But I am learing, and trying to be on guard hopefully. I have always trusted people with anything from the get go, I treat everyone like I want to be. People always seem to need me for something, but once they have it I’m no longer of value. That part hurts badly.
@clover128 lol yes they are helping me now but back with their dad now.
@paphater lol I adore my parents they are lovely and they hate when I’m not close. I’m at st als.
Brew12
Electrical Gru
They are wonderful. And they are "Daddy's girls". From the time I get home at night until they stay pretty much at my side. Makes it hard to do work around the house when I need to but I wouldn't have it any other way.
As you continue to mature, keep that good heart and desire to see people happy. Just remember that you need to be happy, too, and that you need to have control over your relationships. Find that balance and learn from your past experiences. The trick is finding that balance before this becomes the future you.
