Urgh seriously.

[Brew12]

Hello,

@Brew12 this year has not been kind to myself or you. I wish it was possible for your happiness to come back.
It’s no fun having a broken heart, and they never seem to heal. I have never been able to put myself first.
The reasons are that’s not what a good person does, a good person helps those in need. The other reason is,
Doesn’t matter if I do or don’t, most people simply don’t care how they affect others. It really woke me up on how severe depression, anxiety, panic attacks ptsd are. Those who have them put others first and are never cared for.

I don’t know what to make of this year, this crisis and people who live pay check to pay check losing homes or cars etc. nobody cares what happens to them or their families, as long as business make money. I know for my friends I have here I hope things stay good. @Brew12 how I wish I could have made your wife stay for the reason that you were married in the first place . There has always been a standard procedure for most things, if your hungry then eat, If sick see dr If one is bleeding go to the er. But if you are losing your mind and your heart is broken there is no standard solution.

As my friends have said keep your tank you will regret it. I fear this too would be the ultimate demise if you do. Keep me posted on what you plan to do.

As with my tank, I’m lost, confused and have no idea. It maybe in time it will help me like myself again.

@Sarah24! don't worry about me, I will be fine. I still have my health, a great job, and some good friends. I'll find my happy again when I am ready. And I have plenty to keep me busy for now. I refinished all my kitchen cabinets, am almost done installing new tile and am working on building a new kitchen table and side bar. And that is on top of taking care of my furry princess, Bailey, and the aquarium. Now if you know a way to get my friends to stop trying to set me up with every single woman they know, I would appreciate it!
At the very least, my tank needs to be torn down and relocated. Because my ex and son had ties to this area moving wasn't a real option. I've turned down some very interesting opportunities because I wasn't willing to relocate. To make sure that I can move if I desire, I'm working on increasing the value of the home. Part of that is going to be replacing the damaged hardwood around my aquarium. If I do set up a new system, it will be on tile. I've learned my lesson! ;Sorry I'm taking the time to decide if relocation is a real option for me. If it is, I may let the hobby go for awhile. If I decide I'm more likely to stay then I will keep going in the hobby.
There are still a lot of good people out there who put others first. Even though restaurants around me were allowed to stay open they have almost all closed their dining rooms and fired their wait staffs. At first I was offended by this, but then I found out they did it to benefit their employees. Eat in traffic had dropped to the point the staff wasn't making much in tips. By firing them, they were going to make much more in unemployment. Most of them will be rehired when this passes.
It's can be great to put other people first, but you should put yourself first when it comes to your reef tank. Don't let it be a burden on you. When it stops bringing you more joy and comfort than frustration or anxiety it may be time to stop for awhile. At least until you get settled in. You have been through a heck of a lot in 2020. You need to focus on yourself for awhile. You owe it to yourself.

 

[Lowell Lemon]

@Sarah24!
So sorry to hear this possible turn in events. Keep the faith! If the time comes to tear down the tank there is that large aquarium both in Boise and in McCall that might love to take you large fish and corals. I thought there was a public aquarium in Boise as well. You have choices still and I encourage you to explore all of them. Nobody is going to be in a hurry buying a house during a crisis so there is that going for you!

 

[Katrina71]

No matter where you go, I think the folks here will make sure you have a tank! Don't sweat the small stuff. Life is too short!

 

[JoshH]

Hello,

They did give me that option as well. Their asking price is what it was when the market was super high last summer. Which from looking It’s about 30,000 higher.

Well, they certainly aren't going to get anywhere near that in these times. If that's what they are asking I wouldn't worry too much about it selling any time soon. You could get an independent evaluation and see where the house really is value wise and go with that instead. But, I also wouldn't just buy to keep the tank. You would need to make sure it's a home you would really want to stay in for years to come. Not worth rushing anything, even taking the tank down. Maybe line things up so if the time comes, it's not a panic to get things moved...

So sorry to hear of all your troubles that seem to keep popping up. As others have mentioned, we are all here for you if you need it.

 

[Sarah24!]

Hello,

My thread is a tad slow do to work just Being absolutely insane. We are in sooo much trouble, this virus is going to crush the hospital I work at. We have enough equipment to cover maybe 12% of the patients who come in with corna19. We have had to seek out and buy and re use protective equipment. To those sick we are trying we are I promise. I have every intention of keep my thread going but I’m just overwhelmed with what’s going on. For those who think this is a game and run of the mill flu, this will be the greatest mistake of your life. It disturbs me that idaho is on full lock down. Yet I see people out golfing, with groups of people. Yes I had to go and complain, because here shortly they will be in my er and I will hooking them up to a ventilator. They won’t have friends and family by their side, you will pass on with nobody around, is that worth a stupid game of golf. My friends on here I’m begging you to stay home and for once value your life and others over everything else.

 

[tastyfish]

Hello,

My thread is a tad slow do to work just Being absolutely insane. We are in sooo much trouble, this virus is going to crush the hospital I work at. We have enough equipment to cover maybe 12% of the patients who come in with corna19. We have had to seek out and buy and re use protective equipment. To those sick we are trying we are I promise. I have every intention of keep my thread going but I’m just overwhelmed with what’s going on. For those who think this is a game and run of the mill flu, this will be the greatest mistake of your life. It disturbs me that idaho is on full lock down. Yet I see people out golfing, with groups of people. Yes I had to go and complain, because here shortly they will be in my er and I will hooking them up to a ventilator. They won’t have friends and family by their side, you will pass on with nobody around, is that worth a stupid game of golf. My friends on here I’m begging you to stay home and for once value your life and others over everything else.

Sarah, like most of humanity, we are so appreciative and proud of the tireless work you and the rest of the Doctors, Nurses and all the support staff are doing. We know (or think we do) the hours you work, the pressure you are under and, particularly in your case, the battle you've had and are having to get back to being in a position to help people again. We've never met and are on different continents, but I'll speak for everyone by saying "Thank you!" and that we are so proud of what you have accomplished.

We have the same issues in the UK with idiots ignoring lockdown. The idea is that common sense would prevail, but I think the UK and US need to take the lead from France and Spain and have a full lockdown, enforced by police and military, with ridiculous fines and strict justifications needed for leaving the home.

It looks like the UK is close to releasing an instant antibody detection kit, so we can see where the virus is/has been. It can't come soon enough.

We need to flatten the curve. But even if we succeed in that, the pressure on you guys and the system is immense.

People: Stay at home!

 

[S2G]

Hello,

My thread is a tad slow do to work just Being absolutely insane. We are in sooo much trouble, this virus is going to crush the hospital I work at. We have enough equipment to cover maybe 12% of the patients who come in with corna19. We have had to seek out and buy and re use protective equipment. To those sick we are trying we are I promise. I have every intention of keep my thread going but I’m just overwhelmed with what’s going on. For those who think this is a game and run of the mill flu, this will be the greatest mistake of your life. It disturbs me that idaho is on full lock down. Yet I see people out golfing, with groups of people. Yes I had to go and complain, because here shortly they will be in my er and I will hooking them up to a ventilator. They won’t have friends and family by their side, you will pass on with nobody around, is that worth a stupid game of golf. My friends on here I’m begging you to stay home and for once value your life and others over everything else.

So how bad is it with most people? Do majority get pneumonia or is it really just the more susceptible?

I ask because I keep seeing reports oh I had slight fever yadda yadda no biggie. Yet everyone that I really know has had pneumonia & in bad shape. Young or old. Covid 19 my butt that just sounds better than saying SARS.

 

[S2G]

I recieved my get out jail free card as of 2 days ago.

 

[vetteguy53081]

Hello,

My thread is a tad slow do to work just Being absolutely insane. We are in sooo much trouble, this virus is going to crush the hospital I work at. We have enough equipment to cover maybe 12% of the patients who come in with corna19. We have had to seek out and buy and re use protective equipment. To those sick we are trying we are I promise. I have every intention of keep my thread going but I’m just overwhelmed with what’s going on. For those who think this is a game and run of the mill flu, this will be the greatest mistake of your life. It disturbs me that idaho is on full lock down. Yet I see people out golfing, with groups of people. Yes I had to go and complain, because here shortly they will be in my er and I will hooking them up to a ventilator. They won’t have friends and family by their side, you will pass on with nobody around, is that worth a stupid game of golf. My friends on here I’m begging you to stay home and for once value your life and others over everything else.

Very good warning and that is if people will ever change their behaviors. Rather than staying away from others and really exercising true caution, they are blaming these cases on poor health of the sick, and even where they reside. Many are not taking this serious but rather treating it like a vacation.
Who needs a doctor or nurse. Those ill and not know everything about the virus and its' symptoms. They know more than we do !
I too am sick of reusing and salvaging PPE and facing people daily for scans not knowing how truly sick they may be. Yes we are doing all we can while the patients are not, so who wins and who loses ? Can't wait for this to be over.

 

[Sarah24!]

So how bad is it with most people? Do majority get pneumonia or is it really just the more susceptible?

I ask because I keep seeing reports oh I had slight fever yadda yadda no biggie. Yet everyone that I really know has had pneumonia & in bad shape. Young or old. Covid 19 my butt that just sounds better than saying SARS.

Hello,

This is such a loaded question because I don’t get to see all of them and it’s spread out. I can say this if you have asthma, weak immune, respiratory problems, (gosh pick an option), this will ravage you senseless. So far 97% of mine have been admitted, in a separate section and as of this point Boise as no deaths at least this mornings Butcher’s list showed zero. However it’s coming in quick and affecting lots. Me personally, I’d rather stay home but that’s me. This isn’t vacation time, and if people even think this has a low mortality rate, well the number you see, are just ones we know about, imagine how many are not counted. It’s odd how people can go out do do fun things and just walk past a pile of bodies and not think twice. If I’m harsh I’m sorry but hooking a loved one up to a ventilator and know they could die with nobody around is much harsher.

 

[Brew12]

Hello,

This is such a loaded question because I don’t get to see all of them and it’s spread out. I can say this if you have asthma, weak immune, respiratory problems, (gosh pick an option), this will ravage you senseless. So far 97% of mine have been admitted, in a separate section and as of this point Boise as no deaths at least this mornings Butcher’s list showed zero. However it’s coming in quick and affecting lots. Me personally, I’d rather stay home but that’s me. This isn’t vacation time, and if people even think this has a low mortality rate, well the number you see, are just ones we know about, imagine how many are not counted. It’s odd how people can go out do do fun things and just walk past a pile of bodies and not think twice. If I’m harsh I’m sorry but hooking a loved one up to a ventilator and know they could die with nobody around is much harsher.

Sarah, are you doing what is necessary to take care of yourself? I know there are a lot of outside problems in the world but they won't matter if you don't take care of you.

 

[Sarah24!]

Very good warning and that is if people will ever change their behaviors. Rather than staying away from others and really exercising true caution, they are blaming these cases on poor health of the sick, and even where they reside. Many are not taking this serious but rather treating it like a vacation.
Who needs a doctor or nurse. Those ill and not know everything about the virus and its' symptoms. They know more than we do !
I too am sick of reusing and salvaging PPE and facing people daily for scans not knowing how truly sick they may be. Yes we are doing all we can while the patients are not, so who wins and who loses ? Can't wait for this to be over.

Hey there,

Be careful we are seeing more and more nurses doctors and hospital staff getting infected. I sure hope your getting some sleep, and some form of sanity. How is your daughter doing?

 

[Sarah24!]

Sarah, are you doing what is necessary to take care of yourself? I know there are a lot of outside problems in the world but they won't matter if you don't take care of you.

Hello,

They won’t allow phones because the virus and link on to them. But I am soo styling the hazmat suit. I’m a little ocd and I think I have about washed the skin off lol. How about you and are able to stay home?

 

[Brew12]

Hello,

They won’t allow phones because the virus and link on to them. But I am soo styling the hazmat suit. I’m a little ocd and I think I have about washed the skin off lol. How about you and are able to stay home?

I don't worry about you and the virus. I worry about you and your happiness. Are you taking the proper time to care for yourself?
I work from home every Monday and Tuesday, and every other Wednesday. My counter part covers when I am not there. Very odd working from home.

 

[Brad ward]

Hello,

First, please forgive me if I posted this in the wrong section, but I have never had this happen before and I am panicking.

So I have a 240 gallon tank with a 75 gallon sump tank. To be nice I let my brother and his children stay in my home for this week. (Long story) I just came home and found out that my nephews have been urinating in my sump tank. I don’t know how long they have been doing it, how often. I came home and caught my 5 year old nephew red handed.

I immediately shut down my return pumps, and shut the union valves underneath off and shut all flow from the tank to the sump off completely. I have no idea how much has already been sent into my main display tank, and how long. I’m doing a water test now to see where my parameters are now. I also have enough salt water stores to do 80 gallon water change.

The only thing I have added was I turned on my magnum 350 canister filter which there are two of them. One is a purification filter (it’s white) and the second is a straight carbon only. Any thing else I should be doing, I’m worried about my fish and corals.

Thank

It

 

[vetteguy53081]

Hey there,

Be careful we are seeing more and more nurses doctors and hospital staff getting infected. I sure hope your getting some sleep, and some form of sanity. How is your daughter doing?

One of our own has symptoms and on 14 day quarantine. Sleep now comes to me as I off work until the 6th of April - my choice and for sanity recharge. Daughter, real good. Bummed that she has to do some of her nursing studies online and clinicals on hold during Covid19.
You too stay healthy and be cautious.

 

[Sarah24!]

I don't worry about you and the virus. I worry about you and your happiness. Are you taking the proper time to care for yourself?
I work from home every Monday and Tuesday, and every other Wednesday. My counter part covers when I am not there. Very odd working from home.

Hello,

It’s been odd, most of my life I have had to myself and happiness last. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not a grouch and I am happy. I’m still very cheerful and my usual shyness, and always have a smile. Helping others does really make me happy, except when said people say let’s go to party and play golf or some dum thing during this stage. It’s not that I don’t like myself it’s that I solve problems. Most of the time I can solve all but my own odd how that works lol.
Never had a counter part (seriously), what’s it like?

 

[Brew12]

Hello,

It’s been odd, most of my life I have had to myself and happiness last. Now don’t get me wrong I’m not a grouch and I am happy. I’m still very cheerful and my usual shyness, and always have a smile. Helping others does really make me happy, except when said people say let’s go to party and play golf or some dum thing during this stage. It’s not that I don’t like myself it’s that I solve problems. Most of the time I can solve all but my own odd how that works lol.
Never had a counter part (seriously), what’s it like?

I understand what you are saying. Nothing wrong with focusing on the fact you are helping others right now and finding happiness from that. Hopefully that continues. In these times I worry about those working as the first responders and direct care providers. This isn't a 9/11 type event where people can push through for a week or two and then take time off to recover. Best case is that this finally starts slowing in around 2 weeks now that most people are self isolating better. We will be putting a huge burden on our caregivers for months. We need them taking care of their emotional help if we want them to still be functioning a month from now.

Having a counterpart would be great if they carried their own weight. Mine has been on the edge of being fired for years. In fact, my boss was just demoted for not firing him when some things came to light. My new boss is doing a very good job making sure he steps up and carries his share of the load.

So, when are we going to go party?

 

[S2G]

Hello,

This is such a loaded question because I don’t get to see all of them and it’s spread out. I can say this if you have asthma, weak immune, respiratory problems, (gosh pick an option), this will ravage you senseless. So far 97% of mine have been admitted, in a separate section and as of this point Boise as no deaths at least this mornings Butcher’s list showed zero. However it’s coming in quick and affecting lots. Me personally, I’d rather stay home but that’s me. This isn’t vacation time, and if people even think this has a low mortality rate, well the number you see, are just ones we know about, imagine how many are not counted. It’s odd how people can go out do do fun things and just walk past a pile of bodies and not think twice. If I’m harsh I’m sorry but hooking a loved one up to a ventilator and know they could die with nobody around is much harsher.

You and I have different opinions of harsh. You have a very gentle hand. That wasnt meant as a stay at home vs not. I was just curious of the true nature of this. I see so many on social media stating oh I just had a slight fever, you name it. I think a lot of these are just 15m of fame & it's more serious than people think.

I'm afraid we're doomed. I just got back from FL we're most people didn't care. Then I get home & I be danged if a friend of mine isn't grilling out with 10 people!! We have a long road ahead. I hate to say it but we need a lockdown of everything non essential. We're a skeleton crew but if we can't continue your paper, boxes, diapers, & everything made from chemicals is going to start going downhill.

 

[Sarah24!]

Hello,

How are all my dear friends doing? I hope things are well and I’m always here. I have some new pics of my tank I will post soon. The new Naso aka jaws is really fun to watch now and definitely King of the tank. The other tangs I’m not sure but my Bellus angel clown and blue green chromies stay back until he is done eating. But I always make sure plenty of food, but it’s interesting to see. I’m trying a new wave maker flow. Doing one side wave and one side surge. Who has had the best luck in wave modes.