Spouses happy?
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Your wife and mine are twins.
My favorite is "you wasted another weekend f#####g with your dang fish tank" the funny part is I probably spent 3-4 hrs messing with it but she mysterious forgets I cut the grass, did the dishes and probably cooked dinner both nights.
Antics
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My wife is largely apathetic to the aquarium in terms of cost, time, or space. Unfortunately, my personality leads to being easily stressed out by the aquarium, which in turn upsets her because she can't understand why I'd enjoy a hobby that always finds ways to annoy me. 
FishLover01
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My wife prefers that I don't have any tanks. She likes looking at them but not interested in learning about the fish. I have 4 tanks and all I know a 5th doesn't look to be in the near future because of her-lol. We're happy though so that's all that matters.
Reefing newbie
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lol sounds like my girlfriend. she likes looking at the tank and its growing on her but if an argument comes up, shes sure to say those things as well hahah.
Fence13
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My fiancee likes some of the corals and has her own fish, but every time she keeps mentioning that we could get another dog if we didn't have so many tanks (we have 3). I do like my dogs but I'm not getting rid of any tanks!
She's also not supportive of how much money goes into them but never wants me to give away anything. She tells me it's my hobby, not hers, but then turns around and brags about our tanks when people come over to the house. Women are so confusing at times
She's also not supportive of how much money goes into them but never wants me to give away anything. She tells me it's my hobby, not hers, but then turns around and brags about our tanks when people come over to the house. Women are so confusing at times
petemichelle
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wife hates it, I think she's looking at hammers when we go to mall
PJS
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Great topic!
At the time my better half and I met (in 2012) I had a 125g (non-drilled) saltwater fish only set up. She really enjoyed that set up.
After 23 years of fish only it finally happened, I wanted to set up a Reef system. I talked with her about my thoughts on what I wanted to do (planted the seed) with going with a drilled 125g and took her to a couple frag Swaps in Chicago (watered the seed). She loved going to them (and it doesn't hurt that she loves going to the city) , she was able to see what could be with the new set up. During the year of buying gear she never really said anything too negative, it helps that we have separate finances. The tank has been up for a couple of years now, I do all the maintenance but she is very attentive and notices when things don't look quite right. She loves going fish/coral shopping and has bought many of inhabitants. She does have two complaints, the mess maintenance makes and that I haven't wrapped the stand with a skin and made a hood yet. I feel pretty fortunate!
At the time my better half and I met (in 2012) I had a 125g (non-drilled) saltwater fish only set up. She really enjoyed that set up.
After 23 years of fish only it finally happened, I wanted to set up a Reef system. I talked with her about my thoughts on what I wanted to do (planted the seed) with going with a drilled 125g and took her to a couple frag Swaps in Chicago (watered the seed). She loved going to them (and it doesn't hurt that she loves going to the city) , she was able to see what could be with the new set up. During the year of buying gear she never really said anything too negative, it helps that we have separate finances. The tank has been up for a couple of years now, I do all the maintenance but she is very attentive and notices when things don't look quite right. She loves going fish/coral shopping and has bought many of inhabitants. She does have two complaints, the mess maintenance makes and that I haven't wrapped the stand with a skin and made a hood yet. I feel pretty fortunate!
Reef Ryder
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My fiancée is not too thrilled but I tricked her and told her that I dropped the tank while I was doing a transfer and the first thing she asked was "How are the fish"? She loves them, she just won't ever admit it to me.
My husband try's to get in to it. He took me to a frag show and even talked me into buying a few. He also drove me 80 miles to pick up a new tank and help load it and unload it. The suprising part was that he missed the super bowl to do this. I was very thankful. He is wonderful
NeuroticAquatics
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My wife has been good with it. I'm not sure she loves it all, but she does not complain either.
We started with a 75g several years ago and then took a break for a few years when our new house did not have good walls for an aquarium (what was I thinking?). Our newer house had a blank 10' wall and the darn 75g just looked so small that we had to get a 240g. [emoji3]
Somehow she agreed to letting each of the kids have one (60g and 28g) and she let me add a 60g cube to our bedroom.
I think I'm at my limit. [emoji3]
We started with a 75g several years ago and then took a break for a few years when our new house did not have good walls for an aquarium (what was I thinking?). Our newer house had a blank 10' wall and the darn 75g just looked so small that we had to get a 240g. [emoji3]
Somehow she agreed to letting each of the kids have one (60g and 28g) and she let me add a 60g cube to our bedroom.
I think I'm at my limit. [emoji3]
Mark Lawson
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Lol reading all these comments ......... The Happy wife...happy house thing does not fly in our home, she tried the first year or two and always got no where. My Mother in law says am not trainable and has given up on commenting and poking. I always tell her don't as it isn't happening and the door is right over there if you want to continue! After 15 years it's happy house and I get what I want without a fight or comments.......... man up boy's there still is hope for you all.
PJS
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And it ain't the Euphyllia type... Love it!
Reading all these comments is very entertaining!
My wife is my love, my tank is my hobby...I'm not going to lie in order to have either...she knows the tank is part of who I am...that comes with loving me. I'm a blessed soul!
My wife is pretty accepting of it as long as it looks nice. She's an interior designer so has a say in the public aspects of it - outside of the stand, which lights got used (Kessils vs. Radion), etc. we are moving and she brought up getting a bigger peninsula style fish only tank and now regrets it...every house I go in the first comments I have are about where the tank would go.
I told her that as long as I could have a tank with a fish room and a lift in a 3 car garage she can pick everything else. It helps that we have separate fun money accounts that I run all of the tank stuff through.
She does think it's weird how much time I spend reading about other people's tanks on forums though.
I told her that as long as I could have a tank with a fish room and a lift in a 3 car garage she can pick everything else. It helps that we have separate fun money accounts that I run all of the tank stuff through.
She does think it's weird how much time I spend reading about other people's tanks on forums though.
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I was out of the hobby for a while and when I got back into it the wife said you better keep it clean or I don't want it in the house. She did say she wanted a small cube so she could get involved but it would end up being mine to maintain.
Reef_Pilot
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I have had a FW tank for 40 years, and my wife has always liked the look, but didn't care about the details or ever volunteer to help with the maintenance. When I told my wife that I wanted to try SW, she was totally on board, mainly because it made her Christmas shopping easier. Now 30 amazon packages since Christmas, and a with Rubbermaid Brute cycling some rock in the laundry room, and yet the tank set-up is still a few months away, she is beginning to regret the decision to support the switch to SW. I have to say that it is encouraging to see this thread and realize that I am not alone.
Hmm. Well we have been married 11 years and have gone through 3 tanks and on our 4th.
As long as i dont spend to much time and money on it she is ok with it. She tells me to stop buying coral and acts like she doesnt notice the new stuff in the tank.
But she also knows if i didnt have a tank i would either get a motorcycle or classic car. A 45 cube is much cheaper.
I also work very hard to work on the tank when she busy and the kids r sleeping. Family will always come first
As long as i dont spend to much time and money on it she is ok with it. She tells me to stop buying coral and acts like she doesnt notice the new stuff in the tank.
But she also knows if i didnt have a tank i would either get a motorcycle or classic car. A 45 cube is much cheaper.
I also work very hard to work on the tank when she busy and the kids r sleeping. Family will always come first
My wife bought me the tank as Christmas present. She, at the time, had absolutely no clue everything that went into it. She knows I love it and so she likes it. Sometimes she complains that it's driving up the electric bill like crazy but so does having a beer fridge in the garage, which she enjoys as much as me. She actually had to save a carpet surfing clown a few weeks back which is her nightmare coming to life, you know, having to actually touch a fish and to my surprise she handled it like a champ. All in all she likes it because she knows how much I enjoy the hobby.
